Dr. Becky Spelman

Dr. Becky Spelman

Cognitive Behavioural, Psychodynamic & EMDR Practitioner.

Qualifications :

DPsych Couns Psych, PG Dip Couns Psych, PG Dip (Cog Thp), BABCP (Accred), HPC Reg, B.Psych (Hons)

Accreditation :Health & Care Professions Council (HCPC)
Registered Practitioner Psychologist & British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP)

Clinics at :2 Harley St., Skype sessions & phone consultations.

Fees :£170 per session £180 for couples £190 via insurance

Health Insurance Registered with :AVIVA Cigna Vitality Health Bupa UK Bupa International WPA Exeter Family Axa PPP Allianz Simply Health

Dr Becky Spelman uses Psychodynamic Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) and Mindfulness to treat a range of difficulties with a particular interest in Borderline Personality Disorder and the difficulties that go with this condition such as relationship difficulties, anxiety, depression, low-self esteem, social anxiety, fear of public speaking, fear of intimacy,  interpersonal difficulties, anger, body image issues, eating disorders and addictions.

While Dr Becky has a great deal of experience working with anxiety and depression, the majority of her clients have borderline personality disorders traits however many don’t meet the full criteria for the disorder. Often people will spend a year in treatment with Dr Becky in order to create significant changes in their life.

To enable Dr Becky to provide treatment to a wide range of people while also being a Director of a busy clinic she only carries out sessions over telephone or Skype. However she does not see any limitations in providing treatment in this way and often finds that telephone sessions helps people really focus on the content of the sessions without any visual distractions and this can help people retain information from their sessions. She also finds that telephone/skype sessions help people attend on time for their sessions as it removed any travel required.

The first 15 minutes chat, which comes at no charge is an opportunity for you explain your difficulties and receive or inquire about a diagnosis (if a diagnosis is required or would be helpful). Dr Becky will usually offer some useful insight in this first chat allowing a better understanding of where your difficulties have come from and how and why they are being maintained. She will also provide information about what the treatment involves. She will offer treatment based on what has helped her clients get the best results in the past and what seems best for you as an individual. She will advise you on approximately how many sessions it will take for you to see progress.

There is no obligation to continue after the initial consultation. If you decide to work together sessions are usually on a weekly basis and last 50 minutes. For issues that have started early in life, such as issues that have lead to a person having borderline traits, usually it’s recommend that people attend for a minimum of 1 year.

Dr Becky is committed to Continuing Professional Development and keeping up to date with the best Psychotherapy treatment approaches. She abides by the Standards of Conduct Performance and Ethics in the Practice of Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies of the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP) and the Standards of the Health Professions Council (HPC).

Dr Becky has appeared a number of times in the media treating phobias, sleep disorders and other conditions.

 


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Reviews

  • Anon

    Dr Becky Spelman is really knowledgeable about contemporary mental health issues such as low self esteem and depression which affects so many people. We live in a world where it is harder and harder to live authentic lives due to societal pressures and social media. I have found understanding and behavior therapy from the private therapy clinic to help me work at living a happier life.

  • Anon

    We recently had the pleasure of enlisting Dr Becky Spelman as a spokesperson for a media campaign that got traction across a series of broadcast channels. Dr Spelman was incredibly easy to work with throughout the entire process – from initial briefs, content approvals, prompt responses, and then key message delivery during the secured interviews. Always the professional, I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend or use her for similar campaign and spokesperson work in the future.

  • Anon

    We are a national PR agency and worked with Dr Becky on a unique social experiment we were hosting for one of our clients. rnrnBecky was brilliant throughout – offering her guidance and expertise on all of our activity. She was confident, eloquent and very natural on camera and was really flexible in working with us to achieve what we needed.rnrnIt would be a pleasure to work with her again!

  • Anon

    We thoroughly recommend Becky for broadcast TV consultancy – her solid expertise and understanding of television processes makes her an invaluable asset to any production.

  • Anon

    Dr Spelman is an incredibly knowledgeable psychologist who provided an in-depth analysis of adolescent behaviour on the CBS documentary series “Teens Who Kill”. Her insight was invaluable for understanding some of the reasons why young offenders are susceptible to crime, how these cases should be treated and potentially could have been avoided altogether.

  • Anon

    Very helpful tips from Dr. Becky. I am relieved from my 5 years panic disorder through Dr. Becky’s advice. Very uncomfortable feeling and thanks for the video of Dr. Becky it really works.any thanks and more power to you Dr. Becky

  • Anon

    Dr Becky was very professional and a great person to work with! She’s engaging, personable and very knowledgeable in her field. I would definitely work with her again.

  • Anon

    Very helpful – thanks for you help with the article.

  • Anon

    I needed expert commentary on a piece I was writing for a national newspaper. I was really pleased with the information and perspective provided (on phobia of childbirth). I would recommend Dr Spelman as she demonstrated a good understanding of the intended readership too.

  • Anon

    I can not thank Dr Becky enough. As a Radio Producer it is very hard to find a Doctor who is not only knowledgeable but understands the audience and how to convey through audio with energy. We needed an expert on creativity and how you can enhance this, and help us understand how the brain works. Dr Becky went over and above, and is a natural on air – I know she is highly in demand, and for very good reason. Thank you Becky! xx

  • Anon

    Dr. Becky Spelman was wonderful to work with, i would definitely recommend her services!

  • Anon

    Becky is fantastic! We worked together over skype for around 8 months and she has revolutionised the way I approach problems. During this time Becky used a combination of CBT, psychoanalytic and other techniques, and we dealt with stress, anxiety, anger, relationship issues, parental relationships. Becky was able to be flexible in adapting to my needs on a week-by-week basis, and she played an integral part in me regaining my confidence and control of my life. Thanks a lot Becky!!

  • Anon

    I read “Growing up with an emotionally unavailable mother” by Dr Becky Spelman and was floored by the accuracy of the article. While I have been consciously aware of what I craved and didn’t receive as a child, and made conscious decisions to raise my children differently, the affects on my own personal relationships and own feelings is surprising. I feel as if a band I didn’t know was tight around my chest has just released! I’m a writer, and came across this article while researching the effects of emotionally cold parents on a child for a character I’m writing. (Author, heal thyself!) I don’t even blame my mother because her mother was so traumatised by the death of a child, and my mother had a lot of painful things to deal with. But I understand myself better now. I’m 46 years old, and have just had my eyes opened. Thank you!

  • Anon

    Been working with Becky Spellman, over skype calls, working on my anxiety and depression. Unlike other therapists, I have tried to work with, Beckys knowledge and empathy is spot on. Always feel like weve accomplished a better way of working. Been on medication for nearly 8 years, and thank goodness that has reduced dramatically. Outstanding Service.

  • Anon

    Prior to approaching the Private Therapy Clinic, I had been in and out of therapy on the NHS for the past 8 years. In a nutshell, I have been treated for symptoms of childhood trauma manifesting themselves in my adult life, from anxiety to relationship issues. So severe did these symptoms become last year that I found myself struggling to hold on.

    Suffice to say that sustained therapy with Dr Spelman has seen me completely turn my life around in just a few months. I have no doubt that with her continued support long-term change will be achieved such that I can live my life free of trauma for good. Already I find myself relating to myself and the world around me in a much more healthy way, with negative thought patterns acquired over two decades ago replaced with more healthy ways of thinking.

    I should also add that Dr Spelman and her staff are friendly, personable and do not apply a ‘one-size-fits-all’ method of therapy. Your sessions will be tailored to your needs, with out of hours support provided if necessary. It may look like a big investment in the short-term, but in my case the result seems to be long-term health and happiness. I would encourage others to follow suit and recommend the Private Therapy Clinic without hesitation.

  • Anon

    Spending time with Dr Spelman proved to be incredibly constructive, cunning and resolute. She appears to have a proclivity for hard work showing great inclination and desire. She has this inherent ability to help produce results whatever ones mindset and contemplative state. I would recommend Dr Spelman highly in her field of work.

  • Anon

    Becky was extremely professional and approachable. Her help is very much appreciated and I would recommend her service to everyone. Thank you!

  • Anon

    I had exposure work with Dr Spelman for my spider phobia. I was highly certain that it wouldn’t work due to how scared I was, but it was honestly the best thing I’ve ever done. Dr Spelman spent around 2 hours doing exposure work with me, from looking at the spider to actually ending up with it crawling over my palm. Scary experience but definitely worth it for anyone with a spider phobia! 5/5 to the Private Therapy Clinic.

  • Anon

    Dr Spelman is a remarkable practitioner. I could not recommend her enough.

    Becky has continually provided professional, masterful and appropriate advice which has allowed me to cope and overcome various situations in which I have been presented. Her continuous support and approachable personality allowed me to feel at ease whilst providing logical and directive information which provided long term positive outcomes for me both mentally and emotionally.

    Dr Spelman provides sound advice which allowed me to think about specific situations with rationale and logic: which have frequently altered my thought processes in a hugely positive manner.

    Dr Spelman’s approach is organic and at all times professional. Her ability to listen attentively and courteously has makes me feel understood and relaxed – far more than just a regular talking therapist.

    Her services are phenomenal. She has been a hugely important part of my life and I know that she will always be there for me when required.

    Thank you for all your support Becky.

  • Anon

    I cannot speak highly enough about the positive experience we have with Dr Becky Spelman. My daughter has suffered from severe anxiety and panic disorder for the past two years. Dr Spelman has worked magic. The progress I have witnessed in my daughter is remarkable. We have had other therapists in the past, but none have been able get her to face her fear. Dr Spelman is a master at her craft and has taken my daughter through the process while equipping her with the tools she needs to conquer her worry and panic. I stand by and watch in awe at what she manages to achieve under Dr Spelman’s guidance. Amazing results! Thank you Dr Spelman for your amazing dedication, support, and patience on this journey to recovery.

  • Anon

    Having had a course of sessions with Dr Spelman, I can honestly say that she really cares about her clients and does the best to make them feel at ease while maintaining a professional outlook and service at all times. After having my initial consult followed by 4 sessions CBT and one session of EMDR (which was a very unique experience!), I do feel transformed as to my outlook on life and much better able to cope with many worries that have concerned me in recent years. We went through everything from my broken down relationship with my expert partner, through my relationship with my baby daughter and also advice for managing pain following a work related accident. I no longer feel emotional pain with regard to these problems and, just as importantly, I no longer cause pain to those around me and closest to me. As instructed, I have also used carefully planned actions and modified behaviours to improve my physical and emotional state and this has had a bearing on how I also consciously perceive myself, my challenges and how I relate with others around me to find solutions to both my challenges and theirs. I can’t thank Dr Spelman enough. Fantastic service, highly recommended.

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Previous work

Television, Radio, Video & Articles


09 Feb 2017

Dr. Becky Spelman on Sky News discussing the economy of relationships

Dr. Becky Spelman discusses the gumtree research and how much you will spend on average across various stages of the relationship cycle. ....

25 Dec 2016

Commitment Phobia discussion with Dr Becky Spelman

Dr Becky Spelman discusses fear of commitment on a UK talk show. What is commitment phobia, where does it come from and how to overcoming it.....

25 Dec 2016

What is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?

Dr Becky Spelman is a Psychologist who’s main area of speciality is borderline personality disorder (BPD). In this video Dr Becky discusses borderline personality disorder (BPD) in detail covering the following areas: – Where does borderline personality disorder come from in the first place. – How to know if you might have borderline personality disorder. – What difficulties do people with borderline personality disorder experience. – What approaches are helpful for borderline per....

25 Dec 2016

What to do if you aren’t happy with your therapist

Dr. Becky Spelman discusses what to do if there are problems in the relationship with your therapist. When to stick out the relationship, when to call it a day and what is the best way to confront your therapist.....

15 Dec 2016

Are you walking on Eggshells in your relationship?

Intimate relationships with the ones we love are all about compromise. In a partnership, it is normal and appropriate for people to check with their significant others before making decisions that are going to affect the couple. ....

15 Dec 2016

Breaking up under the Mistletoe

Christmas can be the happiest time of the year, but it is also a time when relationships of all sort can come to the boil. A significant number of romantic relationships and marriages break up at Christmas time. So, what is going on?....

09 Dec 2016

Flying with Wifi – the Pros and Cons

In today’s ever-connected world, the plane is one of the few places where we get a few hours’ respite from our mobile phones. So is that a good thing or a bad thing? Speaking as a psychologist, I have often noticed that our technological age seems to bring out ADD symptoms in many of us. Because we know that we can access instant entertainment just by picking up our phones, we often find it hard to concentrate on tasks that call for a period of sustained focus. I know that I often have that....

12 Nov 2016

Brits crave all the likes – social media addiction

Dr Becky Spelman explains instant gratification needed by Brits in the form of social media likes, tweets and shares, with the average Brit spending over 2 hours a day across 3 social media accounts.....

10 Nov 2016

Zayn Malik and his Anxiety Disorder

The world got to know Zayn Malik as the cute young man who sang and danced in boyband One Direction, and millions of teenage girls were devastated when he left the band. With his brooding good looks and successful career, Zayn seemed to have it all before he had even left his early twenties.....

05 Nov 2016

Too Scared to Push? Fear of Childbirth/Afraid of Giving Birth?

While it’s perfectly normal for any woman to experience some nervousness or anxiety around childbirth, for some the fear of childbirth becomes so great that it can actually have a huge impact on their lives and the decisions they take. When fear of childbirth becomes so overwhelming, it is considered a phobia known as “tokophobia”. Tokophobia is a psychological disorder whereby the woman’s fear of giving birth involves a dramatic over-estimation of the actual dangers involved. While thin....

22 Sep 2016

Dr Becky Spelman’s interview on 2FM about the movie Lights out

Dr Becky Spelman's chat with Eoghan McDermott on 2fm, talking fear, phobias and scary movies such as the movie LightsOut.....

21 Sep 2016

Panic Disorder Treatment Video

Dr Becky Spelman discusses how panic disorder can be treated effectively using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and provides information about what's involved in the treatment.....

21 Sep 2016

Fear and Horror movies

Dr Becky Spelman on Dublin's 98 FM Interview about the Psychology of Fear and Horror movies....

17 Aug 2016

When Good Sex Goes Bad – How To Avoid Making Bad Choices In Your Sex Life – Huffington Post

Sex sells the advertising industry says. Men think about sex every seven seconds, a famous but completely fabricated stat says, (it’s actually 19 times per day, on average, with women sex-sidetracked an average of ten times per day). If you believe the media then our whole lives revolve around sex, and whilst that isn’t true, it is fair to say that many people in the West live in a relatively enlightened sexual time, where sexual freedom is both relatively attainable and relatively socially ....

01 Aug 2016

The Psychology Behind Premature Ejaculation – What’s Really Causing It – Huffington Post

As a practicing psychologist I see many people with sexual issues that impact heavily upon their lives. However, there’s one in particular that many men find particularly stressful, and that’s premature ejaculation. This is something that affects up to 4 in 10 men over the age of 18 at some point in their lives, and yet it’s become taboo to talk openly about something that happens to nearly half of British men.....

13 Jul 2016

What Is ‘Tapping’ and Can It Cure All Of Your Pain?

Dr Becky Spelman's Psychologist comments in Vice magazine about EFT. Click here to read the full article. Dr Becky Spelman, psychologist and CBT therapist at Private Therapy Clinic on Harley Street, is not in favour. "While energy meridians are an interesting concept, scientific investigation has thus far been unable to confirm their existence," she said. "Formal studies of the efficacy of EFT have, to date, indicated that any positive results probably have more to do with the placebo effect tha....

11 Jul 2016

Can I buy a Shared Ownership property with a friend?

Advice from the expert. Psychologist Rebecca Spelman gives tips and guidance on how to buy and live together without putting your friendship at risk.....

03 Apr 2016

Life Flat-sharing at 40: ‘The thought of owning property again is daunting’

The psychology of sharing a living space later in life is the subject of research by Dr Becky Spelman at the Private Therapy Clinic, alongside her peers in London and New York. She says, ‘This kind of living style has an initial impact on self-esteem for many. We have preconceptions that society will judge us negatively for not owning our home past the age of 40.’....

25 Nov 2015

The allure of the nanny: What makes these child-carers so irresistible?

Appalling, exploitative behaviour, for sure – but it may be partly down to genes, says Dr Becky Spelman of the Private Therapy Clinic ‘There is a theory with nannies in particular that is linked to evolutionary drives,’ she says. Man shuts down cheating ex in the most passive-aggressive way ‘Men are biologically programmed to look for maternal instincts and, if they see a young, potentially fertile woman surrounded by babies, this perception of them as potential partners increases.....

07 Oct 2015

Cheeks in, lips parted! As the ‘fish gape’ takes over the red carpet, FEMAIL offers a masterclass in how YOU can perfect the photo-friendly look

FEMAIL spoke to Harley Street psychologist Dr Becky Spelman about the ever-changing vortex of photo faces. 'Because of the way today’s spotlight shines on celebrities, the red carpet is a daunting place for even the most confident and experienced individual,' she said.....

06 Oct 2015

Is your bad temper KILLING you? Angry men are more likely to die before the age of 70, study claims

Harley Street-based psychologist Dr Becky Spelman said there are many practical things that we can each do to manage our anger levels. ‘Take the time to consider the things in your life that you can be appreciative of – write them down and picture each clearly in your mind, ideally when you first wake up,’ she said. ‘Visualise what you really want from your life. Hold on to this vision tightly and whenever you feel frustrated come back to the visualisation and do not let go of this. ....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Spiders – Dr Becky Spelman

Spider phobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is ha....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Birds – Dr Becky Spelman

A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. ....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Dogs – Dr Becky Spelman

Dog phobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is hand ....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Water – Dr Becky Spelman

Water phobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is han....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Heights – Dr Becky Spelman

A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on.....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Confined Spaces – Dr Becky Spelman

Claustraphobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is h....

08 Mar 2016

Not to Hot: How to Reconnect Your Relationship’s Sexual Energy – Huffington Post

It is not easy to maintain a good romantic relationship between two people in this day and age. We have never had more access to distraction, and this impacts on the level of intimacy that two people are able to achieve with each other. Continue Reading....

01 Mar 2016

How His Relationship With His Mum Could Spell The End Of Yours – Huffington Post

This week I have been asked by three different friends about their boyfriends' relationship with their respective mothers. What was interesting was that each had a different issue about it, with each providing a different impact upon their relationships. ....

15 Feb 2016

How to Spot Signs Your Partner May Be a Cheater – The Huffington Post

Around Valentine's Day, no-one wants to think their partner may be thinking of someone else. However, research suggests that modern monogamous relationships have never been more likely to see one or both partners stray from home, with some statistics showing over 50% of people are likely to commit at least one act of infidelity in their lifetime. ....

02 Feb 2016

Understanding Sexual Fetishes – The Huffington Post

Thanks to the 50 Shades of Grey phenomena, last year saw the fetish scene sail as close to the mainstream as it has ever done, with the series' first movie the eleventh most popular global film, and EL James's re-telling of her first novel.......

22 Jan 2016

Online Daters Be Wary – Dating Sites Attract Psychopaths and Love Addicts – The Huffington Post

According to recent stats there will be nine million Brits online dating as you read this, with nearly half of adults in the UK having tried finding love through the internet. ....

20 Jan 2016

How to get that job: Dr Becky Spelman’s interview in The Independent

Dr Becky Spelman dreamed of working in a field where she could help individuals find a higher degree of happiness in their lives.....

12 Jan 2016

2015 Was the Year of Casual Sex – But Is It Dangerous for Your Psychological Health?

In 2015 the frequency and depth of sex in my patients' lives appeared to increase in its importance, seemingly due to the ever increasingly sexualised and consumerist society we live in.....

04 Dec 2015

Life Post The Paris Terror Attacks – The Saturday Show – Channel 5 – Dr Becky Spelman

Dr Becky Spelman speaks on Channel 5's The Saturday show about how to deal with anxiety after the Paris attacks.Dr Becky Spelman, a cognitive behavioural Psychologist joins the show to take a look at the varying responses and why we react the way we do.....

26 Nov 2015

How to identify and overcome OCD intrusive thoughts

Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman talks about how to identify OCD thoughts and how exposure therapy for intrusive thoughts can help.....

25 Nov 2015

Dr Becky Spelman on The Gadget Show

Dr Becky Spelman helps presenter Ortis overcome his fear on The Gadget Show on Channel 5 using exposure therapy along with gadgets. ....

29 Oct 2015

Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman on London Live

Psychologist Dr Becky talks on London Live about the research study commissioned by Beko which investigates the way in which socialising has changed, why staying in is the new going out and kitchen envy and the pressure to keep up with all the latest appliances, gadgets and technology. ....

20 Aug 2015

The Psychology of Possessions and Owning more Experiences than Items

Modern society is wonderful in many ways, and the upsides of increases in technological and scientific advances has enabled us to live longer, and in more comfort, than at any other time in human history. However, the consumerism that drives our society comes with the veneration of consumer goods, or ‘stuff’, and it is this drive for consumable abundance that directly impacts our happiness.....

04 Jun 2015

Why do eating disorders and borderline personality disorder go together? By Dr Becky Spelman

Eating disorders occur in people who have difficulty managing their emotions and sitting with difficult emotions, both highly painful emotions and the most subtle of negative emotions.....

25 Feb 2015

Overcoming Panic Attacks by Dr Becky Spelman

Dr Becky Spelman provides a 30 minutes step by step Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Treatment guide on how to overcome panic attacks based on David Clark's research proven treatment. Follow these steps to overcome your panic attacks once and for all. ....

16 Feb 2015

Is nostalgia good for us?

We all fall prey to nostalgia from time to time. When we are middle-aged or elderly, we tend to remember an idealised version of the past, when we were young and gorgeous, and everything seemed to be so much simpler. Similarly, collectively we often yearn for times gone by. Looked at from the distance of today, it often seems that things were easier in the past. This seems to be a sort of nostalgia to which the British are particularly prone, as evidenced by the massive success of TV shows like ....

09 Feb 2015

Fifty Shades of Harm – Why Fifty Shares of Grey is so harmful.

What’s the harm in a little fun? Millions of women, and some men, have enjoyed reading Fifty Shades of Grey, and now they can enjoy seeing the lurid erotic novel played out on the big screen too.Everyone has sexual fantasies, which are a normal, healthy part of our psychological make-up. There’s nothing wrong with letting our mind run riot, and imagining ourselves in all sorts of steamy situations. But the normalising of S&M behaviours, which are increasingly presented in the media as so....

01 Feb 2015

Spider Phobia (Arachnophobia) Treatment – How to overcome Spider Phobia in a few hours

Dr. Becky Spelman helps a lady overcome her spider phobia in just a few hours. In the end she's fine to hold a Tarantula and even have a Tarantula sit on her head. ....

30 Jan 2015

Why do we dream?

Nobody knows for sure why we developed the ability to dream, or what the evolutionary advantage is, but there are lots of interesting theories out there. Whatever the origins of dreaming (something that we share with at least some other mammals), it can play an important role in our psychological health. Again, the mechanism by which this takes place is not always a completely straightforward one.....

20 Jan 2015

Hate mornings? You could have undiagnosed Adult ADHD (ADD)

Many people have trouble waking up in the morning. But if you have consistent difficulties sleeping, you could have attention deficit disorder (ADD) or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). New research has revealed a correlation between the circadian rhythm, the bodies sleep regulation mechanism, and ADHD/ADD. Studies show that trouble falling asleep, poor REM sleep and feeling sluggish in the morning could be a symptom of these disorders.....

06 Jan 2015

Shiloh Jolie-Pitt wants to be called John: When is a child old enough to make a decision about gender identity?

Celebrity couple Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt raised eyebrows recently when they announced that their daughter, Shiloh Jolie Pitt, preferred to dress and behave “like a boy” – and that they are totally fine with that. Apparently little Shiloh – who is lucky enough to have inherited stunning good looks from both sides of her family – is now happier dressing as a boy, and playing with “boys’ toys”, and has asked her family to call her “John.”....

09 Sep 2014

Another Way to Learn?

The arrival of autumn also means the start of a new school year; a time that can bring both excitement and anxiety to parents and children alike.....

08 Sep 2014

The Brangelina Effect and The Psychology of Marriage

As anyone who reads the gossip column knows, actors Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie recently got married, despite having been a couple for years, and having a family of six children.....

30 Aug 2014

Embarrassing Bodies on Channel 4

Dr Becky Spelman discusses Sleep-related Rhythmic Movement Disorder with a young lady and provides her with tips on how to manage the stress which triggers the disorder.....

30 Aug 2014

Airbrushed pictures should be clearly labelled

Dr Becky talks about the effects airbrushed pictures of models in the media can have on young people.....

21 Aug 2014

Something missing –Growing up with an emotionally unavailable Mother

Growing up with a mother who is a quiet Borderline (Borderline Waif’s) mother or mother who is has Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) can be incredibly difficult for a child as your mum will be emotionally underdeveloped. - See more at: http://theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk/growing-up-with-an-emotionally-unavailable-mother/#sthash.WvaeJZrC.dpuf....

06 Aug 2014

Depression and Mental Health in Men

Dr. Becky Spelman speaks on BBC 5live’s Men’s Hour (podcast) about “Depression and Mental Health in Men.” Also speaking about their experiences of depression is former Torquay United Manager Martin Ling and Poet and Stand up Comedian Jack Rourke.....

05 Aug 2014

Housing Costs – Are young adults forced to stay longer?

Dr. Becky Spelman talks on Sky News about the difficulties young people face today trying to get ahead. ....

09 Jul 2014

How to help prevent a loved one from committing suicide

Dr Becky speaks about suicide prevention. What to do if someone you know is suicidal.....

03 Oct 2013

Calling time on reclined airline seats

The strong support for a change in reclined seat procedures makes sense, says psychologist Dr. Becky Spelman, Clinical Director at the Private Therapy Clinic in Harley Street. The effect of people reclining their seat can result in various negative emotions such as anger, stress, anxiety, frustration and upset for the passenger behind them. This emotional impact can result in a whole range of unhelpful behaviours, including air rage.....

16 May 2013

Tunes for the nervous flyer

The Science Behind the MusicDr Spelman’s research finds that breathing in time to music with a low bpm at a controlled and reduced pace is proven to lower heart rate and blood pressure which in turn reduces anxiety. Another established method is to listen to tracks which stimulate both sides of the brain, while using headphones and with eyes your closed. Music which is harmonious and emotive is generally regarded as the best at achieving this type of stimulation which induces Eye Movement ....

19 Nov 2012

Eye movement desensitization reprocessing – EMDR

Dr. Becky Spelman uses a technique known as Eye Movement Desensitization & reprocessing Therapy (EMDR) to help a client get over the emotional trauma of a break up. ....

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