Several of our Therapists that are seeing clients in person have now been vaccinated. In addition to offering in person appointments we are also seeing clients for online sessions via video call.
Dr. Becky Spelman

Dr. Becky Spelman

Cognitive Behavioural, Psychodynamic & EMDR Practitioner.

Qualifications :

DPsych Couns Psych, PG Dip Couns Psych, PG Dip (Cog Thp), BABCP (Accred), HCPC Reg, B.Psych (Hons)

Accreditation :Health & Care Professions Council (HCPC)
Registered Practitioner Psychologist & British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP)
British Psychological Society (BPS)

Clinics at :1 Harley St., Skype sessions & phone consultations.

Fees :£250 per session £260 for couples £300 via insurance £2000 Medico Legal Reports

Health Insurance Registered with :AVIVA, Cigna, Vitality Health, Bupa UK, Bupa International, WPA, Exeter Family, Axa PPP, Allianz, Simply Health, Bupa Global

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Dr Becky Spelman uses Psychodynamic Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) and Mindfulness to treat a range of difficulties with a particular interest in Borderline Personality Disorder and the difficulties that go with this condition such as relationship difficulties, anxiety, depression, low-self esteem, social anxiety, fear of public speaking, fear of intimacy,  interpersonal difficulties, anger, body image issues, eating disorders and addictions.

While Dr Becky has a great deal of experience working with anxiety and depression, the majority of her clients have borderline personality disorders traits however many don’t meet the full criteria for the disorder. Often people will spend a year in treatment with Dr Becky in order to create significant changes in their life.

To enable Dr Becky to provide treatment to a wide range of people while also being a Director of a busy clinic she only carries out sessions over telephone or Skype. However she does not see any limitations in providing treatment in this way and often finds that telephone sessions helps people really focus on the content of the sessions without any visual distractions and this can help people retain information from their sessions. She also finds that telephone/skype sessions help people attend on time for their sessions as it removes any travel required.

The first 15 minutes chat, which comes at no charge is an opportunity for you explain your difficulties and receive or inquire about a diagnosis (if a diagnosis is required or would be helpful). Dr Becky will usually offer some useful insight in this first chat allowing a better understanding of where your difficulties have come from and how and why they are being maintained. She will also provide information about what the treatment involves. She will offer treatment based on what has helped her clients get the best results in the past and what seems best for you as an individual. She will advise you on approximately how many sessions it will take for you to see progress.

There is no obligation to continue after the initial consultation. If you decide to work together sessions are usually on a weekly basis and last 50 minutes. For issues that have started early in life, such as issues that have lead to a person having borderline traits, usually it’s recommend that people attend for a minimum of 1 year.

Dr Becky is committed to Continuing Professional Development and keeping up to date with the best Psychotherapy treatment approaches. She abides by the Standards of Conduct Performance and Ethics in the Practice of Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies of the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP) and the Standards of the Health Professions Council (HPC).

Dr Becky has appeared a number of times in the media treating phobias, sleep disorders and other conditions.

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Previous work

Television, Radio, Video & Articles


13 Mar 2021

What is the Psychology Behind Multi-Level Marketing?

Multi-level marketing is promoted as a great way to make money, and is often marketed at demographics such as stay-at-home-mothers as a flexible part-time job that can make a good income. But does it really work, and what is the psychology behind it?....

06 Mar 2021

Signs You May Be Suffering from Narcissistic Abuse

Despite their grandiose and attention seeking nature, it can be quite hard to determine if someone is a narcissist, especially if you’re engaged in a close relationship with them. It’s in our nature to give the benefit of the doubt and be accepting of people’s flaws. After all, none of us are perfect. ....

01 Mar 2021

Case study: How CBT can be applied in the treatment of depression

The aim of this case study is to show through the use of a client study, how cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) can be applied in the treatment of depression. The patient is a woman with a 2-year history of depression connected with low self-esteem, guilt and shame. An account of the CBT treatment carried out over 12 sessions is given.....

25 Feb 2021

The Untold Benefits of Using EMDR Therapy for PTSD, Anxiety and Trauma

Mental health is very much an uneven playing ground in terms of what conditions respond best to individual approaches and the relative ease with which it’s possible to make a full recovery. For some behavioural issues, there might be a reasonably straight forward and linear path to follow. You can largely correct most behaviours within a short series of cognitive behavioural therapy sessions. But when it comes to trauma-based conditions, the way hasn’t always been quite as clear.....

30 Jan 2021

Is a Dyslexia Assessment beneficial?

Dyslexia impacts on the ability to read and write, is a common condition that can have serious implications for educational and career prospects. However, there are many approaches that can mitigate against its effects, and dyslexia sufferers have the legal right to special help in a range of circumstances via an dyslexia assessment.....

06 Jan 2021

HOW TO BECOME A CLINICAL OR COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGIST | difference between clinical and counselling psychologist

In this video Dr Becky Spelman offers advice on how to become a HCPC registered Psychologist in the UK. Dr Becky talks about tips on how to get in to Doctorate training courses in either Clinical Psychology and Counselling Psychology. ....

04 Jan 2021

What is the Emotional Impact of Freezing your Eggs?

Balancing a career with aspirations to have a family has never been easy for women, who have to deal with structural sexism in the workplace, who may wish to wait for “Mr Right” before having a child, and who may be anxious about their biological clock if they are getting older.....

08 Nov 2020

4 Misconceptions to Consider About Child Sex Abuse

Child sex abuse is one of the very worst types of trauma. It’s a truly horrific situation to be in and leads to a whole host mental and emotional difficulties that can last well into adulthood. The innocent mind of a child is nowhere near equipped to deal with the concept of sexual reproduction, much less be forced to take part in the act itself.....

12 Sep 2020

How to Support Someone with Autism

There’s a saying within the care industry, ‘if you’ve met someone with autism, then you’ve met one person with autism.’ There is no textbook example you can point to; no exact process to provide support. But there are some general strategies that can help.....

18 Aug 2020

How to help prevent a loved one from committing suicide

Dr Becky speaks about suicide prevention. What to do if someone you know is suicidal.....

10 Aug 2020

Exploring the Effects of Cognitive Bias and How They Affect Us

While the human mind is capable of some truly astounding feats of innovation and problem-solving, it is also highly susceptible to outside influence. The way that we analyse and interpret information often results from preconceived ideas and expectations. When we allow our opinions to be influenced by these, it creates what is known as a cognitive bias.....

01 Apr 2020

Spike in Sales of Sex toys Amidst the Covid-19 Crisis

For those who are single and looking for a new relationship, or who are open to hook-ups, now is definitely not a good time. We are all supposed to be observing the rules around social distance—which makes sex with someone who is not our long-term partner a no-no. That means that there are a lot of sexually frustrated individuals out there—and a big market for sex toys. Some of the most civic-minded people in our society, the ones who are actually avoiding encounters with others, are probabl....

06 Feb 2020

Overcoming Low Self-Esteem Part 1: Identifying Your Anxieties

Low self-esteem is best defined as a lack of confidence and the constant feeling of doubt about oneself and how you're perceived by others. People with low self-esteem often come across as awkward, incompetent and fragile. They have a hard time not just with social mobility but also maintaining a sense of social parity.....

30 Dec 2019

Overcoming Childhood Trauma: Understanding Blame

Trauma is never a welcome experience. It can leave deep scars that take years to heal – if they ever do at all. But when it occurs in childhood, it has a long-lasting effect on our psychological development.....

22 Dec 2019

7 Eye-Opening Signs You’re in a Co-Dependent Relationship

A co-dependent relationship is a relationship dynamic in which two people are unable to function without the input of the other. You could view this as a state of unconditional love. But there is a difference.....

18 Dec 2019

Sex Addiction and Hypersexuality: An Overview

Sex addiction is often written off as an indulgent behaviour and not as a real addiction. Because it's something that we all engage in, it's perceived as a poor excuse for lack of self-restraint. But there are consequences for being consumed by the act of sex. Like all addicts, the individual is stuck in a cycle they can't break.....

15 Dec 2019

Is Hypnotherapy the Answer to Depression?

As a psychotherapeutic treatment, hypnotherapy doesn't always receive the attention it deserves. In many ways, you might even consider it as a last-ditch effort. But there are a lot of benefits to be had from a course of hypnotherapy, especially for depression. It's been said there is never an absolute way of achieving your goals.....

31 Oct 2019

The Psychology of Why Adults Enjoy Halloween

Halloween is a holiday characterised by ghosts, monsters and the consumption of excessive amounts of sweets. It’s also something that is mostly marketed at children, with many confectionary brands and toy retailers offering spookily themed Halloween products.....

13 Oct 2019

How Do You Recognize Tourette’s Syndrome and What Treatments Are Available?

Tourette's Syndrome is a rare and complex neuropsychiatric condition that is most well-known for the involuntary tics it causes an individual to emote. Despite its rarity, Tourette's often presents itself in conjunction with other disorders, such as Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Learning Disorders and Anxiety.....

15 Jun 2019

How and Why Does Social Media Contribute to Self-Harm?

Self-harm has been present in society for several generations, now. But with the rise of graphic content being shared on platforms such as Instagram, just how much is it contributing to the problem? ....

06 Jun 2019

6 Red Flags for PTSD Patients

The symptoms that contribute to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), only received their official definition within standard psychiatry in the 1980s. But the truth is, the condition has been around for much longer. PTSD is the result of an inability or lack of opportunity to process an extraordinary or traumatic event at the time it's experienced. ....

03 Jun 2019

Could Your Chronic Fatigue Symptoms Really Be a Mental Health Issue?

Within all areas of the health care industry, there is conjecture about the validity and cause of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). Some experts regard it as an imaginary condition, while others advocate strongly for increased awareness and support afforded to those who suffer from it. ....

01 May 2019

Kleptomania – Why do People Steal?

While it is always wrong to steal, most people who do so have logical reasons behind their actions. Typically, they want money or objects that they feel they need or that they think will make their lives better in some way. This is true for both habitual “professional” thieves and those who indulge in an occasional spot of shop-lifting.However, there are also people who steal for no obvious reason at all, and who cannot justify their actions on any level, even to themselves.....

25 Feb 2019

The Art of Cultivating Self-Esteem

The concept of self-esteem is loaded with several misconceptions. We all know vaguely what it relates to, but as far as exact definitions go, the facts often become skewed by assumption.....

19 Feb 2019

Understanding the Mindset of Self-Sabotage

Finding the success we want in life is hard. There can be all manner of obstacles placed in our path, as we travel on our very own Hero’s Journey. But for all the trials we face, we wouldn’t consider the biggest one could actually be us....

15 Feb 2019

Rethinking Our Understanding of Confrontations

For most people, confrontations bring up the image of an altercation, aggression and there being a definitive winner and loser. That, of course, can be true and plays out in many couples. But it doesn’t have to be that way. ....

14 Feb 2019

Accountability: Why it’s Important to Set Goals

Accountability, what does it mean to you? It’s a term that has several connotations. The first is of negative consequence; the attribution of blame for having made an error.....

09 Feb 2019

Admitting and Resolving Our Addictions

Although addictions can often be debilitating and prevent from leading a functional life, so many worm their way into our daily routine. We grant them permission, and build our lives around them, ignoring the detrimental effects they have on our health and social life. Rarely do we stop to question our habits.....

05 Feb 2019

The Real Threat of Social Media Addiction

Social media is the elephant in the room we can no longer ignore. There’s no escaping its presence. And although it can most definitely be a force for good, connecting like-minded people from far-flung pockets of the world, its drawbacks have become a blight on our modern culture. The countless memes portraying friends ‘socialising’ at the dinner table, transfixed with their devices is a damning but altogether accurate piece of satire.....

02 Feb 2019

The Lesser-Known Ingredients of a Happy Life

When people talk about leading a happy life, the usual clichés are rolled out of living in the moment, letting go and practicing mindfulness. And while there is truth to these sayings – they’re clichés for a reason – they don’t offer much concrete advice. They remain somewhat intangible.....

26 Jan 2019

Recovery: Harnessing the Power of Belief

In recovery, the focus is usually on the process, steps, environment and execution. The idea of belief isn’t paid nearly as much attention. It is, however, where the healing begins. Not only that, but it also dictates how successful any course of treatment or intervention will be.....

03 Jan 2019

How to Overcome Self Sabotage and Start Getting Ahead in Life

Change is one of life’s great challenges. Stepping into the unknown brings with it the possibility of failure; of not measuring up and can seed doubt over our worthiness. These thoughts can become so prevalent, we see them as rational. ....

31 Dec 2018

The Mis-Conceptions Surrounding Forgiveness

Forgiveness is something we all crave when we're in the wrong, yet, it’s an act that all too few of us are able or willing to extend in return. At its heart, it’s a simple concept. Let go of the hurt or injustice you’re feeling, and absolve the other party of their guilt.....

05 Dec 2018

How can you use a Worry Tree to tackle the things that are Worrying you?

We all suffer from worry at times, and for those who are inclined to suffer from anxiety, worry can become genuinely very disabling. Worries can escalate until they are occupying all our mental space. They can lose all proportion and prevent us from engaging in our everyday activities. We can waste hours every day fretting and worrying about things that might never even happen.....

12 Nov 2018

Should you allow your partner to be friends with an Ex?

Dr Becky Spelman from Private Therapy Clinic talks about whether it's appropriate to allow your partner to be friends with their ex or not. This can be a difficult decision for someone and there is no black and white answer as every situation is different.....

30 Sep 2018

How to be Successful on Social Media without it Affecting your Mental Health

In this video Dr Becky Spelman discusses how social media can affect people mental health and offers advice about how to stay successful online without social media affecting your psychological health. If you would like more advice on how to prevent burnout as an influencer whether you are already successful online or just starting out, feel free to get in touch. ....

16 Sep 2018

How Derren Brown’s placebo effect experiment changed this man’s life

In this video psychologist Dr Becky Spelman interviews a man who's life was transformed by a placebo pill. The interview discusses the power of the mind and how beliefs and behaviours can be changed by the power of placebo. While Dr Becky usually uses Cognitive Behavioural techniques (CBT) to achieve change in her clients, TV Hypnotist Derren Brown uses an alternative approach which proves just as effective. ....

09 Sep 2018

How To Talk To Your Partner About Your Sexual Assault

In this video Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman discusses a topic that comes up for many clients who have been the victims of sexual assault, it's common for people to wonder "will my parent judge me if they know I was raped'.....

05 Sep 2018

What is Exposure Therapy?

In this video Dr Becky Spelman talks about exposure therapy and why it is so good for overcoming anxiety. Exposure therapy is a CBT technique which is very useful in helping people overcome anxiety as it helps people learn to sit with their distress and overcome it. ....

02 Sep 2018

How to be Successful

In this video Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman talks about how to be successful. What really counts as success, how to know where to draw the line and how to know if you are spending your time in the right away.....

22 Aug 2018

How to challenge unhelpful thinking – a simple strategy

In this video Dr Becky Spelman discusses a simple strategy to overcome unhelpful thinking. This techniques uses certain questions to help people overcome their unhelpful thoughts.....

20 Aug 2018

What is the best treatment for Depression

Dr Becky Spelman discusses the depression cycle and why CBT is the most effective treatment for depression. In this video our leading Psychologist also points out why some client might want to hold off on trying medication in order to overcome depression. ....

18 May 2018

The Royal Wedding – Why Do We Care So Much?

From the tabloid press to the most respectable newspapers in the market, the upcoming marriage of Meghan Markle and Prince Harry is getting loads of coverage, and the public is lapping it all up. But why is a royal wedding such big news anyway, and why we do care so much?....

06 Mar 2018

Why do we Tell Lies?

Why do people sometimes tell lies? Sometimes the reasons are obvious: to avoid getting into trouble when we have done something wrong; to make things easier for ourselves; to make ourselves look more impressive in certain situations.....

01 Feb 2018

Why you should consider a digital detox

As a regular user of social media and a person who has to use my laptop and phone constantly for work including Skyping many of my clients I have become really aware of the impact that being glued to my digital devices can have on me. Communicating with friends on social media can be a lot of fun, and a good way to stay in touch with people in far-flung places, but it’s important to remember that nothing beats face-to-face interaction with the people we care about. No matter how busy you are, ....

28 Jan 2018

How To Effectively Set Life Goals

Setting life goals in our personal lives is something that a lot of us struggle with. Whether we want to lose weight, or work on our pension plan, there are always many reasons to put our goals on the long finger. However, most of us are much better at reaching the goals we are set, or set ourselves, at work.....

30 Dec 2017

Why do New Year’s resolutions often fail?

It’s rolling around to the time of the year when it seems like everyone makes a commitment to be better next year. But by mid-February almost all New Year’s resolutions have been broken. Understanding why can help you make real, long-lasting changes as you head into 2018 and beyond.....

28 Dec 2017

7 tips for getting over the January blues

The initial winter period is always an exciting time, with Christmas to plan and New Year’s Eve celebrations to look forward to. Yet when January finally rolls around it can seem a bit anti-climactic. The weather is still chilly, it’s dark in the evenings, and it can seem like events you’re looking forward to are way off in the future.....

26 Dec 2017

Every human has mental health difficulties

When you’re struggling with mental health, it’s easy to think that you’re alone. But at some point in their life every human has mental health difficulties and with the right support and treatment, it is possible to overcome the challenges to live a fulfilling and satisfying life. Research shows that one in four people suffer with mental health difficulties in a more chronic way, significantly affecting their lives.....

18 Dec 2017

Is it bad if you desire fame?

In today’s society, it’s hard to deny the fact that most, if not all people, are in some way interested in the lives of the rich and famous. Whether it be following the Instagram account of your favorite celebrity or finding out the latest news in glossy magazines, we all keep up to date with what is going on in celebrity’s lives in one way or another. Because famous people often have a lot of money, live in nice houses and drive fancy cars, it’s easy for others to draw a link between be....

03 Nov 2017

Stock Market Millionaire Turned Ecstasy Dealer Interview

This is the first episode in our online series that interviews interesting people who have lead extraordinary lives delving deep in to their psychological worlds. It features stock market millionaire turned ecstasy dealer, Shaun Attwood, who is interviewed by Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman.....

24 Oct 2017

The symptoms and challenges of Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar disorder, formally known as manic depression, is a condition that can severely affect your mood and wellbeing, meaning you swing from one extreme to the other. It can be a difficult condition to live with, interfering with everyday tasks but with the right treatment and support in place, it is possible to manage the symptoms and mood swings, allowing you to live a fulfilled and happy life. ....

13 Oct 2017

5 steps for dealing with the last effects of trauma

When you’re faced with a traumatic event in your life, coming to terms and dealing with the long-lasting effects of trauma are often challenging. It’s an area that many people struggle with and the impact of a traumatic event varies widely from person to person. Even when you’ve dealt with the initial shock and emotions of a traumatic event, issues associated with the event can continue to plague you for long after.....

12 Oct 2017

Why changing your thought processes can have a big impact on your life

How we think about situations has a huge impact on how we react and move past things. It can be easy to fall into a negative thought cycle, stopping us from living fulfilling and satisfying lives. But there are ways that you can break these adverse thoughts that we have fallen into.....

10 Oct 2017

Dr Becky Spelman discusses ADHD on Sky One

Transcription: “What do you think of when you hear the term ADHD? Erm… I believe it’s people who have a lot of energy. I have it myself, so a lot of teachers they wouldn’t they would say it’s hard to teach someone with ADHD because they can’t concentrate. Basically is an attention seeking disorder where you can’t focus long at times or you can have a child way about you.......

25 Sep 2017

Questions To Ask When Choosing A New Therapist

As a psychologist, it’ll come as no surprise that I thoroughly believe that therapy can go a long way towards helping you with your problems. Whether it’s coming to terms with a loss, working through relationship issues or accepting a big change in your life, a therapist can help you to handle situations emotionally and mentally.....

22 Sep 2017

Everyday Lifestyle Changes To Help With Depression

Millions of people around the world suffer with depression and though we’ve all blurted out “I am SO depressed!” when something isn’t going our way, the impact of struggling with diagnosed depression is a hard one to bare. It isn’t a slight feeling of sadness that will go when the problem is resolved, depression can rear its ugly head when it's least expected and it can stick around. ....

21 Sep 2017

How Does Social Media Affect Relationships?

We can credit social media with a lot of things and most of them are positive. As a social media user myself, I am more than aware of the enjoyment and fun that we, as users, get out of it and a lot of this stems from gaining validation through likes and comments. After all, who doesn’t enjoy scrolling through Twitter and keeping up to date with friends on Facebook? However, there’s an ongoing question as to whether social media negatively affects relationship.....

15 Sep 2017

Is Your Relationship With Your Child A Healthy One?

Every parent wants their child to grow up happy and healthy, and a lot of this comes from the way a child is parented from the very beginning. A relationship with a parent is one of the most important a child will have in their lifetime, and it’s the one that shapes them the most as they grow.......

08 Sep 2017

7 tips for improving your sleeping patterns

If you’ve got something on your mind getting to sleep can be a challenge and it doesn’t just mean waking up in the morning feeling groggy. Poor sleeping patterns can have a big impact on both your physical and mental health. But tackling sleeping problems, whether it’s just the occasional bad night’s sleep you’re having or a potential sleep disorder, can be quite a challenge.....

04 Sep 2017

What is cognitive behavioural therapy?

If you’re considering using therapy to help you overcome personal issues, you might have heard the term cognitive behavioural therapy. This successful form of psychotherapy, also sometimes called talking therapy, can help give you the right strategies to improve your own behavioural patterns and the way that you look at things.......

01 Sep 2017

4 everyday steps to take to boost self-esteem

Low self-esteem is a relatively common problem but that doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t be taken seriously. Affecting many different people for a variety of reasons, low self-esteem negatively influences other aspects of your life, limiting the joy and fulfilment you should be experiencing.......

29 Aug 2017

What impact does porn addiction have on relationships?

Easy access to the internet means that people are watching porn younger and more frequently than ever before. While for most people it doesn’t impact on their daily lives and can even be a healthy activity for a relationship, porn addiction can have hugely negative effects for individuals and couples and it’s a growing problem.......

24 Aug 2017

The stages of surviving a relationship breakup

Any relationship breakup can be difficult to get over for both parties but sometimes dealing with it can have a long-lasting impact. Some people find that they’re left with low self-esteem and struggling to cope with the emotional pain. But the good news is that with the right health and support you can get through the common stages of a breakup.......

23 Aug 2017

Has the Stigma behind Mental Health finally ended?

People are talking much more about depression lately. Part of the reason why is that mental health stigma is lessening, leading to more people talking about it, and partly it’s because mental health is being researched and is in the news more. Whatever the reason as to why it’s happening, it couldn’t come at a better time.......

07 Aug 2017

Easy ways to destroy your relationship

American authors Joseph Fink and Jeffrey Cranor wrote “Whisper a dangerous secret to someone you care about. Now they have the power to destroy you, but they won't. This is what love is.” They may have been being funny, but there’s some truth lurking behind their words.......

28 Jul 2017

Are you stuck in a co-dependent triangle?

Let me know if this sounds familiar: you’ve been in a relationship, friendly or romantic, and someone else comes into the mix. Maybe they’re your partner’s colleague, or maybe a friend’s roommate. Whatever the reason, since you all started hanging out together, the three of you take on some very distinct roles.....

25 Jul 2017

How fantasies can boost your sex life

Sexual fantasies often get a bad rap. You may feel guilty for daydreaming about Chris Hemsworth sweeping in to rescue you and then leading you to bed, feeling that you’re mentally cheating on your partner and that your fantasy means you’re not really a feminist. This is categorically not true.....

24 Jul 2017

Why do some women cheat?

If you’re reading this because you’re thinking of cheating on your partner, do one thing before you close this page: think about why you’re thinking of cheating on them. Are they not sexy anymore? Do they not care? Has the spark gone, or are you worried about sharing something of yours—like a fantasy or a fetish—with them, because of how they’ll react?....

09 Feb 2017

Dr Becky Spelman on Sky News: The Economy of Relationships

Dr. Becky Spelman discusses the gumtree research and how much you will spend on average across various stages of the relationship cycle. ....

25 Dec 2016

Commitment Phobia discussion with Dr Becky Spelman

Dr Becky Spelman discusses fear of commitment on a UK talk show. What is commitment phobia, where does it come from and how to overcoming it.....

25 Dec 2016

What is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?

Dr Becky Spelman is a Psychologist who’s main area of speciality is borderline personality disorder (BPD). In this video Dr Becky discusses borderline personality disorder (BPD) in detail covering the following areas: – Where does borderline personality disorder come from in the first place. – How to know if you might have borderline personality disorder. – What difficulties do people with borderline personality disorder experience. – What approaches are helpful for borderline per....

25 Dec 2016

What to do if you aren’t happy with your therapist

Dr. Becky Spelman discusses what to do if there are problems in the relationship with your therapist. When to stick out the relationship, when to call it a day and what is the best way to confront your therapist.....

15 Dec 2016

Are you walking on Eggshells in your relationship?

Intimate relationships with the ones we love are all about compromise. In a partnership, it is normal and appropriate for people to check with their significant others before making decisions that are going to affect the couple. ....

15 Dec 2016

Breaking up under the Mistletoe

Christmas can be the happiest time of the year, but it is also a time when relationships of all sort can come to the boil. A significant number of romantic relationships and marriages break up at Christmas time. So, what is going on?....

09 Dec 2016

Flying with Wifi – the Pros and Cons

In today’s ever-connected world, the plane is one of the few places where we get a few hours’ respite from our mobile phones. So is that a good thing or a bad thing? Speaking as a psychologist, I have often noticed that our technological age seems to bring out ADD symptoms in many of us. Because we know that we can access instant entertainment just by picking up our phones, we often find it hard to concentrate on tasks that call for a period of sustained focus. I know that I often have that....

18 Nov 2016

What is Compassion Focussed Therapy?

Compassion Focused Therapy combines Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with knowledge from fields that include neuroscience and an understanding of our evolutionary past to help patients enhance their ability to feel compassion towards themselves and others. ....

18 Nov 2016

What is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy?

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, a form of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, maximises your chances to be fulfilled and happy by helping you to accept that there are some things in life you can’t control, and that you can engage actively in doing things that make your life better. ....

10 Nov 2016

Zayn Malik and his Anxiety Disorder

The world got to know Zayn Malik as the cute young man who sang and danced in boyband One Direction, and millions of teenage girls were devastated when he left the band. With his brooding good looks and successful career, Zayn seemed to have it all before he had even left his early twenties.....

05 Nov 2016

Too Scared to Push? Fear of Childbirth/Afraid of Giving Birth?

While it’s perfectly normal for any woman to experience some nervousness or anxiety around childbirth, for some the fear of childbirth becomes so great that it can actually have a huge impact on their lives and the decisions they take. When fear of childbirth becomes so overwhelming, it is considered a phobia known as “tokophobia”. Tokophobia is a psychological disorder whereby the woman’s fear of giving birth involves a dramatic over-estimation of the actual dangers involved. While thin....

22 Sep 2016

Interview with 2FM on Lights Out

Dr Becky Spelman's chat with Eoghan McDermott on 2fm, talking fear, phobias and scary movies such as the movie Lights Out.....

11 Jul 2016

Can I buy a Shared Ownership property with a friend?

Advice from the expert. Psychologist Rebecca Spelman gives tips and guidance on how to buy and live together without putting your friendship at risk.....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Confined Spaces – Dr Becky Spelman

Claustraphobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is h....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Spiders – Dr Becky Spelman

Spider phobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is ha....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Dogs – Dr Becky Spelman

Dog phobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is hand ....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Water – Dr Becky Spelman

Water phobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is han....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Heights – Dr Becky Spelman

A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on.....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Birds – Dr Becky Spelman

A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. ....

08 Mar 2016

Not to Hot: How to Reconnect Your Relationship’s Sexual Energy – Huffington Post

Lovers in bed                   It is not easy to maintain a good romantic relationship between two people in this ....

04 Dec 2015

Life Post The Paris Terror Attacks – The Saturday Show – Channel 5 – Dr Becky Spelman

Dr Becky Spelman speaks on Channel 5's The Saturday show about how to deal with anxiety after the Paris attacks. Dr Becky Spelman, a cognitive behavioural Psychologist joins the show to take a look at the varying responses and why we react the way we do.....

26 Nov 2015

How to identify and overcome OCD intrusive thoughts

Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman talks about how to identify OCD thoughts and how exposure therapy for intrusive thoughts can help.....

25 Nov 2015

Dr Becky Spelman on The Gadget Show

Dr Becky Spelman helps presenter Ortis overcome his fear on The Gadget Show on Channel 5 using exposure therapy along with gadgets. ....

29 Oct 2015

Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman on London Live

Psychologist Dr Becky talks on London Live about the research study commissioned by Beko which investigates the way in which socialising has changed, why staying in is the new going out and kitchen envy and the pressure to keep up with all the latest appliances, gadgets and technology. ....

20 Aug 2015

The Psychology of Possessions and Owning more Experiences than Items

Modern society is wonderful in many ways, and the upsides of increases in technological and scientific advances has enabled us to live longer, and in more comfort, than at any other time in human history. However, the consumerism that drives our society comes with the veneration of consumer goods, or ‘stuff’, and it is this drive for consumable abundance that directly impacts our happiness.....

04 Jun 2015

Why do eating disorders and borderline personality disorder go together? By Dr Becky Spelman

Eating disorders occur in people who have difficulty managing their emotions and sitting with difficult emotions, both highly painful emotions and the most subtle of negative emotions.....

25 Feb 2015

Overcoming Panic Attacks by Dr Becky Spelman

Dr Becky Spelman provides a 30 minutes step by step Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Treatment guide on how to overcome panic attacks based on David Clark's research proven treatment. Follow these steps to overcome your panic attacks once and for all. ....

16 Feb 2015

Is nostalgia good for us?

We all fall prey to nostalgia from time to time. When we are middle-aged or elderly, we tend to remember an idealised version of the past, when we were young and gorgeous, and everything seemed to be so much simpler. Similarly, collectively we often yearn for times gone by. Looked at from the distance of today, it often seems that things were easier in the past. This seems to be a sort of nostalgia to which the British are particularly prone, as evidenced by the massive success of TV shows like ....

09 Feb 2015

Fifty Shades of Harm – Why Fifty Shares of Grey is so harmful.

What’s the harm in a little fun? Millions of women, and some men, have enjoyed reading Fifty Shades of Grey, and now they can enjoy seeing the lurid erotic novel played out on the big screen too. Everyone has sexual fantasies, which are a normal, healthy part of our psychological make-up. There’s nothing wrong with letting our mind run riot, and imagining ourselves in all sorts of steamy situations. But the normalising of S&M behaviours, which are increasingly presented in the media as so....

01 Feb 2015

Spider Phobia (Arachnophobia) Treatment – How to overcome Spider Phobia in a few hours

Dr. Becky Spelman helps a lady overcome her spider phobia in just a few hours. In the end she's fine to hold a Tarantula and even have a Tarantula sit on her head. ....

30 Jan 2015

Why do we dream?

Nobody knows for sure why we developed the ability to dream, or what the evolutionary advantage is, but there are lots of interesting theories out there. Whatever the origins of dreaming (something that we share with at least some other mammals), it can play an important role in our psychological health. Again, the mechanism by which this takes place is not always a completely straightforward one.....

20 Jan 2015

Hate mornings? You could have undiagnosed Adult ADHD (ADD)

Many people have trouble waking up in the morning. But if you have consistent difficulties sleeping, you could have attention deficit disorder (ADD) or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). New research has revealed a correlation between the circadian rhythm, the bodies sleep regulation mechanism, and ADHD/ADD. Studies show that trouble falling asleep, poor REM sleep and feeling sluggish in the morning could be a symptom of these disorders.....

06 Jan 2015

Shiloh Jolie-Pitt wants to be called John: When is a child old enough to make a decision about gender identity?

Celebrity couple Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt raised eyebrows recently when they announced that their daughter, Shiloh Jolie Pitt, preferred to dress and behave “like a boy” – and that they are totally fine with that. Apparently little Shiloh – who is lucky enough to have inherited stunning good looks from both sides of her family – is now happier dressing as a boy, and playing with “boys’ toys”, and has asked her family to call her “John.”....

09 Sep 2014

Another Way to Learn?

The arrival of autumn also means the start of a new school year; a time that can bring both excitement and anxiety to parents and children alike.....

30 Aug 2014

Embarrassing Bodies on Channel 4

Dr Becky Spelman discusses Sleep-related Rhythmic Movement Disorder with a young lady and provides her with tips on how to manage the stress which triggers the disorder.....

30 Aug 2014

Airbrushed pictures should be clearly labelled

Dr Becky talks about the effects airbrushed pictures of models in the media can have on young people.....

21 Aug 2014

Cold Mother Syndrome: Understanding You Have an Emotionally Distant Mother

Growing up with a mother who is a quiet Borderline (Borderline Waif’s) mother or mother who is has Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) can be incredibly difficult for a child as your mum will be emotionally underdeveloped. - See more at: https://theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk/growing-up-with-an-emotionally-unavailable-mother/#sthash.WvaeJZrC.dpuf....

06 Aug 2014

Depression and Mental Health in Men

Dr. Becky Spelman speaks on BBC 5live’s Men’s Hour (podcast) about “Depression and Mental Health in Men.” Also speaking about their experiences of depression is former Torquay United Manager Martin Ling and Poet and Stand up Comedian Jack Rourke.....

05 Aug 2014

Housing Costs – Are young adults forced to stay longer?

Dr. Becky Spelman talks on Sky News about the difficulties young people face today trying to get ahead. ....

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