Private Therapy Blog and Recent Articles

18 Jun 2018

Dealing with Racism

When they are asked, most people agree that racism is a problem and maintain that they are not racists—and yet, racism persists throughout society in a wide range of obvious and less obvious ways. To tackle racism, we first need to understand it.....

16 Jun 2018

Is it ever a good idea to get your DNA tested?

In recent years it has become progressively easier and cheaper to get one’s DNA tested, and more and more people are doing so. In the process, they are finding out a lot about themselves—and they are not always prepared for it! One major issue is that a lot of people are finding half-siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles that they didn’t know about. It’s simply not true that infidelity is a modern phenomenon. ....

11 Jun 2018

Votes for Women!

Full voting rights were extended to women in 1928. A generation later, in the 1960s, the modern women’s liberation movement emerged, with women demanding greater control over their reproductive freedoms, equal treatment at work, and so forth. Arguably, other social movements such as the gay rights movement and (in the US) the civil rights movement, would never have happened without the women’s liberation movement, which was a trailblazer in terms of achieving broad-ranging changes across soc....

04 Jun 2018

Why is it Important to Forgive?

When someone treats us badly, we can be left with feelings of anger and bitterness that last long after the immediate effects of the mistreatment. Sometimes these feelings can even cause us more harm than the behaviour. For this reason, it is essential to learn how to forgive. The idea of forgiving someone who has done something awful can be very difficult to accept. What about murderers, rapists, domestic abusers, and other violent criminals? What makes them deserving of forgiveness at all?....

02 Jun 2018

Living with Chronic Illness

More people than ever are living with chronic illness, for a variety of reasons. More of us are living to advanced ages, and we all tend to accumulate health problems as we get older. Medical care has improved, which means that more people survive serious accidents, and find themselves living with a chronic condition afterwards, and medication is better, which means that many conditions, such as HIV/AIDS, which used to be a death sentence, can now be managed with medication. At the same time, ou....

28 May 2018

Why do People believe in Ghosts?

Beliefs in ghosts, and stories about ghosts, are found in cultures all over the world, and even in modern societies, a lot of people believe in them—or at least, they don’t quite disbelieve in them! Given that ghost stories are a constant, found in all cultures and all time periods, it’s safe to say that a predisposition to believe in ghosts is part of the human condition. But why?....

26 May 2018

Worried you’ll be forced to leave the UK?

If you are looking to immigrate to the UK, or for leave to remain, you may be asked to provide medical and psychological reports to support your claim. If you're worried you’ll be forced to leave the UK, there are many ways in which Psychologists can help with your immigration matters.....

24 May 2018

Challenges Facing Millennial Parents

Every generation of parents faces new challenges when it comes to raising their kids, and millennials are no different. Millennials are defined as the generation born from the 1980s to the 2000s. That puts many of them squarely in their child-bearing and raising years and they have a lot of important decisions to make! ....

18 May 2018

The Royal Wedding – Why Do We Care So Much?

From the tabloid press to the most respectable newspapers in the market, the upcoming marriage of Meghan Markle and Prince Harry is getting loads of coverage, and the public is lapping it all up. But why is a royal wedding such big news anyway, and why we do care so much?....

17 May 2018

The Psychology of Compensation

It has been well documented in the area of psychology that when someone has a weakness, or a perceived weakness, it can drive them to compensate in other areas, either consciously or unconsciously. They can go to great lengths to compensate in positive ways, potentially leading to tremendous success—but also potentially leading to negative consequences.....

14 May 2018

What is Unconscious Bias and What are We Supposed to do About it?

Most people do their best to avoid being biased. We are aware of the existence in society of issues like racism and sexism, and we generally make an effort not to be discriminatory. We do this by being aware of our conscious biases, and then taking affirmative action against them.....

11 May 2018

Is Crying Good for us?

First of all, crying is part of what makes us human. While all mammals have tear ducts that produce moisture to lubricate the eye and keep it clean, only humans produce tears that leave their eyes and roll down their faces when they are feeling sad. Tears are part of who we are.....

06 May 2018

Anxiety and How to Deal with the Current Political Climate

Growing numbers of people around the world are experiencing stress and anxiety related to the current political climate. If they already have an underlying mental health issue, their worries about politics are making it worse—and even people who have never been diagnosed with a disorder are experiencing anxiety around this matter. So, what’s going on? Why are so many people upset about this area?....

03 May 2018

Watch your Language! – Why it Matters What Words we Choose

Language is not a constant, but a changing, living tool for communication that shifts and adapts as society does. Go back a thousand years in Britain, and you’ll have a lot of trouble understanding what people are saying. But you don’t have to go back that far to start noticing how much language has changed, even in a relatively short time.....

29 Apr 2018

What we Choose to Remember, and why it Matters

This week, thanks to the work of Caroline Criado Perez, London’s Parliament Square has seen the erection of its first statue depicting a woman, Millicent Fawcett, who campaigned for women’s right to vote for sixty years, and finally saw the Equal Franchise Act passed in 1928, a year before she died.....

26 Apr 2018

Pull yourself up after being put down!

What can you do when your partner keeps putting you down? When they make fun of your ideas or appearance, and belittle you at home or in public? After all, they are the one who is supposed to love and support you, no matter what. If you are constantly at the brunt of their negative feedback, what does that say about your relationship, and how they really feel about you?....

22 Apr 2018

Ever asked yourself “How can therapy help me?”

Therapy is not just for people with serious mental illness—although it is essential for anyone in that situation—but for everyone who is going through a difficult period, or who is struggling to manage their relationship with the important people in their lives, or to juggle the many commitments that they are dealing with.....

21 Apr 2018

Is somebody gaslighting you?

The term “gaslighting” originally comes from a theatre play, later developed as a movie, in which a husband gradually convinces his wife that her own memory and perceptions are faulty, even causing her to doubt her own sanity, so as to cover up a crime that he has committed.....

17 Apr 2018

Recovering from a parent’s addiction

Having a parent who is addicted to drugs or alcohol has been identified as a major challenge to children in terms of developing the skills of resilience that they will need in life. Children of addicts are significantly more likely to grow up to have a range of mental health issues of their own, including addiction. Children who live with emotional and/or material neglect because of a parent’s addiction often grow up into adults with issues of their own.....

15 Apr 2018

How to be a “good enough” parent

No sooner does a woman announce her pregnancy than she is bombarded with well-meaning advice on how to take care of the future child. It seems as though everyone is suddenly an expert. And with fathers increasingly playing a very active role in childcare, they’re not immune from all the unwanted advice, either.....

14 Apr 2018

Is the Internet good for our mental health?

People suffering from mental or emotional health issues often turn first to the Internet in an effort to find answers to their questions. Depending on how they use the Internet, and interact with the people they meet there, they may find it an invaluable resource, or their Internet use could risk making their mental or emotional health issues even worse.....

12 Apr 2018

Can mental ill-health lead to physical illness?

People sometimes struggle to accept that mental health issues are worthy of treatment in their own right. Unfortunately, while a lot of work has been done to destigmatise mental health issues, some people still feel ashamed or embarrassed if they need support in this area.....

09 Apr 2018

Why does we get so psychologically attached to our pets – Is cloning your dog or cat going to far?

Veteran performer Barbra Streisand has been in the news lately for cloning her pet dog—not just once but twice! So, why clone a pet? The motivation isn’t very hard to understand. Our pets become part of the fabric of our lives, and we love them dearly.....

03 Apr 2018

Faking Psychological Issues to Get Ahead?

It’s to society’s credit that we increasingly make provision for people with special needs in a wide range of circumstances, and that we increasingly understand that these special needs can be psychological, emotional, or neurological rather than, or as well as, simply physical.....

01 Apr 2018

The Modern Tribe – Finding Our Place

In order to understand human behaviour—including our own—it’s important to know a little about how human societies evolved. Modern humans are reckoned to have been in existence for about 100,000 years. For almost all of that time, our societies (like those of chimpanzees, gorillas and other primates) were arranged along tribal lines.....

29 Mar 2018

What is Emotional Eating, and What Can we Do About it?

At a time when it seems that every week brings a new spate of media coverage about the obesity epidemic, it’s more important than ever to understand the role of emotional eating. So, what is emotional eating? What does the term mean? Where does it come from? Many of us turn to food when we are feeling down—and also when we are feeling good. Why?....

27 Mar 2018

What Everyone Needs to Know about Neurotransmitters!

Neurotransmitters are responsible for a chemical in our brain implicated in feeling good, because our bodies secrete it when they have an experience that we interpret as pleasant. Neurotransmitters can have a very profound effect on how we live. When we give ourselves a “little treat” or see a friend, or even have a nice cup of tea after a busy day at work, neurotransmitters makes us feel that much better about our life and leaves us wanting more.....

24 Mar 2018

Why Do We Enjoy Violence?

Back in the days of Freud, psychologists and psychotherapists tried to rationalise the human drive to see or experience violence and death, and the fact that those who have suffered trauma tended to return to it again and again in terms of natural instinct. They failed, however, to reach consensus about our attraction to death.....

23 Mar 2018

Can Stress Make Me Sick?

Stress is a normal function and, at times, stress can be very useful. For example, when we are facing an imminent threat (for instance, if we are crossing the road and there’s a car barrelling towards us, or if someone is trying to attack us) we go into fight-or-flight mode. Our body secretes an extra burst of adrenaline, and we are better able to remove ourselves from danger. In emergency situations, stress can help us to stay safe.....

19 Mar 2018

Establishing Boundaries With Borderline Personality Disorder

It can be very difficult to be in a romantic relationship with someone with a borderline personality disorder. For anyone with this condition, it can be hard to understand how others experience their often erratic and risky behaviour, and they can lash out when anyone tries to rein them in, not realising on any level how much they are hurting the people they care about most. However, there are many coping mechanisms that can make life with someone with borderline personality disorder a lot easie....

16 Mar 2018

Could Anxious Attachment be Causing Your Relationship Problems?

We use the term “attachment” to describe the warm feelings that one person develops for another individual who is important to them. The first attachment we form in life is typically for our mother, or primary caregiver, and the way in which this attachment forms has profound repercussions for the rest of our lives. Secure attachment means that the person in question does not doubt the love or care of those who matter to them.....

12 Mar 2018

When will Life Get Back to Normal Now that the Baby is Here?

Having a new baby—especially a first baby—is something that no book can really prepare anyone for. Life can seem to be turned upside down as Mum and Dad adjust to the new arrival, and they may wonder how long things are going to seem so topsy-turvy. Some women suffer from post-partum depression.....

11 Mar 2018

No need to panic!

Panic attacks are quite common, and most people will experience at least one in the course of their lives. They are formally defined as consisting of the sudden onset of extremely intense feelings of fear or discomfort that grow quickly, and reach a peak within just a few minutes. The symptoms they involve include palpitations, an intensely accelerated heart rate, sweating, trembling, and a feeling of being short of breath or being smothered.....

09 Mar 2018

What’s gender non-conformity, and how do I know if I am gender non-conforming?

There’s a lot of talk about gender in the media these days, and a lot of people are thinking about what it means to be a man or woman, a girl or a boy. But what does it mean to “conform” or to be “non-conforming” when we talk about gender? Different societies come up with different norms for males and females.....

06 Mar 2018

Why do we Tell Lies?

Why do people sometimes tell lies? Sometimes the reasons are obvious: to avoid getting into trouble when we have done something wrong; to make things easier for ourselves; to make ourselves look more impressive in certain situations.....

04 Mar 2018

Goals for Winning at Life

Setting goals in our personal lives is something that a lot of us struggle with. Whether we want to lose weight, or work on our pension plan, there are always many reasons to put our goals on the long finger. However, most of us are much better at reaching the goals we are set, or set ourselves, at work. ....

02 Mar 2018

Heart not Parts—the Rise of Pansexuality

To put it simply, whereas a bixsexual person typically identifies as being romantically and sexually attracted to people of both sexes, pansexual people recognise that gender identity is often more complex than a straightforward male/female division, and that they are potentially sexually attracted to anyone. Pansexual people (“pan” comes from the ancient Greek word for “all”) are not sexually attracted to people of any particular gender, so anyone is potentially a mate for them, includi....

25 Feb 2018

Is polyamory ever a good idea?

Polyamory refers to having more than one romantic relationship at the same time—with everyone involved aware of, and in agreement with, the situation. There are endless permutations. Polyamory could be a woman living with two men and enjoying a sexual relationship with both of them, or a man with two women, or a married couple who have opened their relationship to hetero-, homo-, or bisexual relationships that do not challenge the marriage bond—or more.....

24 Feb 2018

What’s the difference between psychopathy and schizophrenia?

Psychopathy and schizophrenia are both frequently represented in popular culture—in thrillers and on TV shows—and they are both significantly more common among men than women, with the result that they are often confused and conflated. However, they are two very different conditions.....

21 Feb 2018

What’s Gender Dysphoria?

Gender dysphoria refers to a mental condition whereby the individual has the strong sense, sustained over a long period of time, that they are “in the wrong body”. This gives rise to intense feelings of distress that, in some cases, are alleviated by medical and/or surgical intervention to make the body look more like that of the sex the person identifie....

19 Feb 2018

Can I be happy on my own?

Our society puts people under huge pressure to meet someone and settle down, to the extent that those of us who are single are often left wondering if there’s something wrong with us. Why don’t we want the same thing as everyone else?....

04 Feb 2018

Irrational fear of dying when falling asleep

Poppy had an irrational fear of dying when trying to fall asleep, this anxiety issue involves all sorts of catastrophic thoughts for Poppy. Poppy attended 7 sessions of CBT with Psychologist Dr. Daniela Rossi in order to tackle and overcome her fear. In this video Poppy explains her issues behind her irrational fear of dying when falling asleep, before coming in for the initial assessments.....

01 Feb 2018

Why you should consider a digital detox

As a regular user of social media and a person who has to use my laptop and phone constantly for work including Skyping many of my clients I have become really aware of the impact that being glued to my digital devices can have on me. Communicating with friends on social media can be a lot of fun, and a good way to stay in touch with people in far-flung places, but it’s important to remember that nothing beats face-to-face interaction with the people we care about. No matter how busy you are, ....

30 Jan 2018

What can you do when your partner keeps putting you down?

What can you do when your partner keeps putting you down? After all, they are the one who is supposed to love and support you, no matter what. First of all, you need to take a step back and assess what’s going on. Are the put-downs a pattern of behaviour that has been established for some time? Do they seem to be designed to damage your self-esteem? ....

29 Jan 2018

When a parent is addicted to drugs or alcohol

A parent who is addicted to drugs or alcohol has been identified as a major challenge to children in terms of developing the skills of resilience that they will need in life. In practical terms, an addicted parent is often functionally absent from their child’s life, as they can be so chaotic and troubled themselves that they are not always able to parent effectively.....

28 Jan 2018

How To Effectively Set Life Goals

Setting life goals in our personal lives is something that a lot of us struggle with. Whether we want to lose weight, or work on our pension plan, there are always many reasons to put our goals on the long finger. However, most of us are much better at reaching the goals we are set, or set ourselves, at work.....

30 Dec 2017

Why do New Year’s resolutions often fail?

It’s rolling around to the time of the year when it seems like everyone makes a commitment to be better next year. But by mid-February almost all New Year’s resolutions have been broken. Understanding why can help you make real, long-lasting changes as you head into 2018 and beyond.....

28 Dec 2017

7 tips for getting over the January blues

The initial winter period is always an exciting time, with Christmas to plan and New Year’s Eve celebrations to look forward to. Yet when January finally rolls around it can seem a bit anti-climactic. The weather is still chilly, it’s dark in the evenings, and it can seem like events you’re looking forward to are way off in the future.....

26 Dec 2017

Every human has mental health difficulties

When you’re struggling with mental health, it’s easy to think that you’re alone. But at some point in their life every human has mental health difficulties and with the right support and treatment, it is possible to overcome the challenges to live a fulfilling and satisfying life. Research shows that one in four people suffer with mental health difficulties in a more chronic way, significantly affecting their lives.....

24 Dec 2017

Being in a relationship with an older woman – Can it work when the man is much younger?

Age differences in a relationship can be challenging and leave many couples questioning if their partnership can survive the years between them. While an older man going out with a younger woman is common and generally accepted, society can be a little less open minded when it comes to an older woman choosing to date a man that’s much younger than her. But that certainly doesn’t mean it can’t work out.....

18 Dec 2017

Is it bad if you desire fame?

In today’s society, it’s hard to deny the fact that most, if not all people, are in some way interested in the lives of the rich and famous. Whether it be following the Instagram account of your favorite celebrity or finding out the latest news in glossy magazines, we all keep up to date with what is going on in celebrity’s lives in one way or another. Because famous people often have a lot of money, live in nice houses and drive fancy cars, it’s easy for others to draw a link between be....

15 Dec 2017

How to survive Christmas physically and mentally

In popular culture, it’s cited as the most wonderful time of the year, but we all know that Christmas can be stressful for everyone involved. Whether it’s having to deal with difficult relatives, shopping for children that have everything or making time for your 101 social commitments, it can feel more like an extra job than an enjoyable holiday to spend with family and friends. If the Christmas panic is already setting in and you want to ensure that you don’t let it get the better of you,....

13 Dec 2017

How to choose the perfect Christmas present

It’s that time of the year where high streets are filled with shoppers wandering up and down looking for the perfect Christmas present for their loved ones. If you’re one of those people that’s filled with dread at the thought of having to choose a gift this season or you’re worried about how to choose the perfect Christmas present, we’ve got the tips that you’ve been looking for. If you’re not sure what to get this Christmas it can be a stress inducing experience.....

09 Dec 2017

“Worrying thoughts”: What if we’re doing it wrong?

Let me ask you a question: Is anxiety and fear a major problem in your life? I’m sure you won’t be surprised to know that whether your answer is “Yes ” you are in good company. If you answered “yes” the chance is that: you have developed a problem with anxiety and you struggle. You may be suffering from: panic, worries, painful memories or physical pain. You may feel broken, damaged and think that something is wrong with you, you might have tried many different things to cope. Does a....

08 Dec 2017

How to be successful

Whether it be in our careers or relationships, one thing that we are all constantly striving for is success. Being successful means different things to different people, but there are a few common characteristics that we all associate with the word - including money and happiness. So, how can we go about getting the elusive and often difficult to achieve success that we dream of?....

06 Dec 2017

Tips on dealing with SAD

We all have to cope with our low mood when the seasons change and as the colder weather sets in, many of us will feel pangs of depression taking over as the carefree feelings that the summer induces slowly ebbs away. Believe it or not, this feeling actually has a diagnosed name and condition. Known as Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), this depression is related to the changes of season.....

30 Nov 2017

Why balanced diets are the only ones that work long term

Open any magazine or check any of your social media accounts and you’re likely to be bombarded with news of a new diet. It seems that every week celebrities are adopting a different plan when it comes to food and completely changing their diet in pursuit of weight loss and the perfect body. While most of us are aware that they don’t work, we have all been led astray by crash and fad diets when we are trying to lose weight. ....

27 Nov 2017

The psychology behind cults

Cults can come in many different forms. Members of a cult may be obsessed by a cult figure, or leader, who they believe speaks unrivalled wisdom and consequently hang on to every word of. Similarly, members of a cult may be fascinated by achieving an outcome or goal espoused in a text and, after becoming so transfixed by what they believe, blindly follow the teachings or orders of the text so they can better themselves or reap the supposed rewards. ....

24 Nov 2017

Dr Kannika Sukantara Psychologist in Bangkok

Dr Kannika is a highly experienced Chartered Psychologist specialising in the relationship between physical health and mental and emotional well-being. Dr Kannika works for Private Therapy Clinic in Bangkok.....

15 Nov 2017

The psychology behind Pyramid schemes

Pyramid schemes are a curious yet deceitful phenomenon. The scheme works through an initial recruiter, who forms the apex of the pyramid, offering a lucrative deal of goods or services in return for investment. In order to make back the money they’ve spent investing, the initial recruit has to recruit more members, with those members then having to recruit even more to get their money back and so on.....

11 Nov 2017

Can I fly with my therapy dog?

Do you use a therapy dog and want to travel? If you’re not sure what the rules and regulations are of travelling with your therapy pup (or other therapy animals) we’ve got all the information that you need.....

03 Nov 2017

Stock Market Millionaire Turned Ecstasy Dealer Interview

This is the first episode in our online series that interviews interesting people who have lead extraordinary lives delving deep in to their psychological worlds. It features stock market millionaire turned ecstasy dealer, Shaun Attwood, who is interviewed by Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman.....

25 Oct 2017

The Psychology of Why Adults Enjoy Halloween

Halloween is a holiday characterised by ghosts, monsters and the consumption of excessive amounts of sweets. It’s also something that is mostly marketed at children, with many confectionary brands and toy retailers offering spookily themed Halloween products.....

24 Oct 2017

The symptoms and challenges of Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar disorder, formally known as manic depression, is a condition that can severely affect your mood and wellbeing, meaning you swing from one extreme to the other. It can be a difficult condition to live with, interfering with everyday tasks but with the right treatment and support in place, it is possible to manage the symptoms and mood swings, allowing you to live a fulfilled and happy life. ....

21 Oct 2017

Clinical Psychologist Dr Jodie Waterhouse Video

Dr. Jodie Waterhouse is an excellent Clinical Psychologist with vast amount of experiences. Dr. Jodie is a very active participant in treating her clients, she works both in and outside the therapy room. She works with all common mental health difficulties helping both adults and adolescents.....

12 Oct 2017

Why changing your thought processes can have a big impact on your life

How we think about situations has a huge impact on how we react and move past things. It can be easy to fall into a negative thought cycle, stopping us from living fulfilling and satisfying lives. But there are ways that you can break these adverse thoughts that we have fallen into.....

10 Oct 2017

Dr Becky Spelman discusses ADHD on Sky One

Transcription: “What do you think of when you hear the term ADHD? Erm… I believe it’s people who have a lot of energy. I have it myself, so a lot of teachers they wouldn’t they would say it’s hard to teach someone with ADHD because they can’t concentrate. Basically is an attention seeking disorder where you can’t focus long at times or you can have a child way about you.......

13 Oct 2017

5 steps for dealing with the last effects of trauma

When you’re faced with a traumatic event in your life, coming to terms and dealing with the long-lasting effects of trauma are often challenging. It’s an area that many people struggle with and the impact of a traumatic event varies widely from person to person. Even when you’ve dealt with the initial shock and emotions of a traumatic event, issues associated with the event can continue to plague you for long after.....

04 Oct 2017

Child psychologist Tamara Musso Introduction Video

My name is Tamara Licht, I am a child and adult psychologist. I work for Private Therapy Clinic. My biggest area of expertise is working with children, teenagers and their parents. [er] usually treatment with children and teenagers involves working not only with the parents but sometimes it might be necessary, if the parents consent to it, to contact [er] other professionals....

25 Sep 2017

Questions To Ask When Choosing A New Therapist

As a psychologist, it’ll come as no surprise that I thoroughly believe that therapy can go a long way towards helping you with your problems. Whether it’s coming to terms with a loss, working through relationship issues or accepting a big change in your life, a therapist can help you to handle situations emotionally and mentally.....

22 Sep 2017

Everyday Lifestyle Changes To Help With Depression

Millions of people around the world suffer with depression and though we’ve all blurted out “I am SO depressed!” when something isn’t going our way, the impact of struggling with diagnosed depression is a hard one to bare. It isn’t a slight feeling of sadness that will go when the problem is resolved, depression can rear its ugly head when it's least expected and it can stick around. ....

21 Sep 2017

How Does Social Media Affect Relationships?

We can credit social media with a lot of things and most of them are positive. As a social media user myself, I am more than aware of the enjoyment and fun that we, as users, get out of it and a lot of this stems from gaining validation through likes and comments. After all, who doesn’t enjoy scrolling through Twitter and keeping up to date with friends on Facebook? However, there’s an ongoing question as to whether social media negatively affects relationship.....

15 Sep 2017

Is Your Relationship With Your Child A Healthy One?

Every parent wants their child to grow up happy and healthy, and a lot of this comes from the way a child is parented from the very beginning. A relationship with a parent is one of the most important a child will have in their lifetime, and it’s the one that shapes them the most as they grow.......

08 Sep 2017

7 tips for improving your sleeping patterns

If you’ve got something on your mind getting to sleep can be a challenge and it doesn’t just mean waking up in the morning feeling groggy. Poor sleeping patterns can have a big impact on both your physical and mental health. But tackling sleeping problems, whether it’s just the occasional bad night’s sleep you’re having or a potential sleep disorder, can be quite a challenge.....

04 Sep 2017

What is cognitive behavioural therapy?

If you’re considering using therapy to help you overcome personal issues, you might have heard the term cognitive behavioural therapy. This successful form of psychotherapy, also sometimes called talking therapy, can help give you the right strategies to improve your own behavioural patterns and the way that you look at things.......

01 Sep 2017

4 everyday steps to take to boost self-esteem

Low self-esteem is a relatively common problem but that doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t be taken seriously. Affecting many different people for a variety of reasons, low self-esteem negatively influences other aspects of your life, limiting the joy and fulfilment you should be experiencing.......

29 Aug 2017

What impact does porn addiction have on relationships?

Easy access to the internet means that people are watching porn younger and more frequently than ever before. While for most people it doesn’t impact on their daily lives and can even be a healthy activity for a relationship, porn addiction can have hugely negative effects for individuals and couples and it’s a growing problem.......

24 Aug 2017

The stages of surviving a relationship breakup

Any relationship breakup can be difficult to get over for both parties but sometimes dealing with it can have a long-lasting impact. Some people find that they’re left with low self-esteem and struggling to cope with the emotional pain. But the good news is that with the right health and support you can get through the common stages of a breakup.......

23 Aug 2017

Has the Stigma behind Mental Health finally ended?

People are talking much more about depression lately. Part of the reason why is that mental health stigma is lessening, leading to more people talking about it, and partly it’s because mental health is being researched and is in the news more. Whatever the reason as to why it’s happening, it couldn’t come at a better time.......

09 Aug 2017

Infidelity And How Therapy Can Help

Some researchers point out that sexual monogamy is not common in the animal world but is instead a construct of human beings that tends to conflict with the biological desire for multiple sexual partners. Despite this fact, many people continue to aspire to such ideals and many cultures throughout the world demand sexual fidelity by harshly punishing those who stray.......

07 Aug 2017

Easy ways to destroy your relationship

American authors Joseph Fink and Jeffrey Cranor wrote “Whisper a dangerous secret to someone you care about. Now they have the power to destroy you, but they won't. This is what love is.” They may have been being funny, but there’s some truth lurking behind their words.......

28 Jul 2017

Are you stuck in a co-dependent triangle?

Let me know if this sounds familiar: you’ve been in a relationship, friendly or romantic, and someone else comes into the mix. Maybe they’re your partner’s colleague, or maybe a friend’s roommate. Whatever the reason, since you all started hanging out together, the three of you take on some very distinct roles.....

25 Jul 2017

How fantasies can boost your sex life

Sexual fantasies often get a bad rap. You may feel guilty for daydreaming about Chris Hemsworth sweeping in to rescue you and then leading you to bed, feeling that you’re mentally cheating on your partner and that your fantasy means you’re not really a feminist. This is categorically not true.....

24 Jul 2017

Why do some women cheat?

If you’re reading this because you’re thinking of cheating on your partner, do one thing before you close this page: think about why you’re thinking of cheating on them. Are they not sexy anymore? Do they not care? Has the spark gone, or are you worried about sharing something of yours—like a fantasy or a fetish—with them, because of how they’ll react?....

22 Jul 2017

How do we spot a Personality Disorder?

I generally feel uneasy talking about client’s problems using diagnosis, as I don’t think this necessarily helps clients make sense of their difficulties. However, I’m also aware that sometimes clients find comfort in receiving a diagnosis, something that instantly materialises their internal struggle; seeing their difficulties becoming real and “finally out”, not just in their head.....

20 Jul 2017

Margery Parsons Psychodynamic Therapist at Private Therapy Clinic

Margery Parson is a Psychodynamic Therapist who consults at at Private Therapy Clinic. In this video she explains how she came to be a therapist in the first place.....

29 Jun 2017

What Is Walking Depression?

Have you ever heard about “Walking” or “Smiling” depression? Don’t be surprised if you have not. In a society where our lives appear to be increasingly defined by the mantra “I’m doing therefore I am”....

09 Feb 2017

Dr Becky Spelman on Sky News: The Economy of Relationships

Dr. Becky Spelman discusses the gumtree research and how much you will spend on average across various stages of the relationship cycle. ....

25 Dec 2016

Commitment Phobia discussion with Dr Becky Spelman

Dr Becky Spelman discusses fear of commitment on a UK talk show. What is commitment phobia, where does it come from and how to overcoming it.....

25 Dec 2016

What is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?

Dr Becky Spelman is a Psychologist who’s main area of speciality is borderline personality disorder (BPD). In this video Dr Becky discusses borderline personality disorder (BPD) in detail covering the following areas: – Where does borderline personality disorder come from in the first place. – How to know if you might have borderline personality disorder. – What difficulties do people with borderline personality disorder experience. – What approaches are helpful for borderline per....

25 Dec 2016

What to do if you aren’t happy with your therapist

Dr. Becky Spelman discusses what to do if there are problems in the relationship with your therapist. When to stick out the relationship, when to call it a day and what is the best way to confront your therapist.....

15 Dec 2016

Are you walking on Eggshells in your relationship?

Intimate relationships with the ones we love are all about compromise. In a partnership, it is normal and appropriate for people to check with their significant others before making decisions that are going to affect the couple. ....

15 Dec 2016

Breaking up under the Mistletoe

Christmas can be the happiest time of the year, but it is also a time when relationships of all sort can come to the boil. A significant number of romantic relationships and marriages break up at Christmas time. So, what is going on?....

13 Dec 2016

December Newsletter

It's that time of year where Halloween costumes and decorations sits near the supermarket entrances and everybody has only now just got used to writing '2016' on documents.....

09 Dec 2016

Flying with Wifi – the Pros and Cons

In today’s ever-connected world, the plane is one of the few places where we get a few hours’ respite from our mobile phones. So is that a good thing or a bad thing? Speaking as a psychologist, I have often noticed that our technological age seems to bring out ADD symptoms in many of us. Because we know that we can access instant entertainment just by picking up our phones, we often find it hard to concentrate on tasks that call for a period of sustained focus. I know that I often have that....

18 Nov 2016

Is a Dyslexia Assessment beneficial?

Dyslexia impacts on the ability to read and write, is a common condition that can have serious implications for educational and career prospects. However, there are many approaches that can mitigate against its effects, and dyslexia sufferers have the legal right to special help in a range of circumstances via an dyslexia assessment. ....

18 Nov 2016

What is Compassion Focussed Therapy?

Compassion Focused Therapy combines Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with knowledge from fields that include neuroscience and an understanding of our evolutionary past to help patients enhance their ability to feel compassion towards themselves and others. ....

18 Nov 2016

What is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy?

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, a form of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, maximises your chances to be fulfilled and happy by helping you to accept that there are some things in life you can’t control, and that you can engage actively in doing things that make your life better. ....

18 Nov 2016

How to overcome a break up

When an important relationship ends, it can be the start of a very difficult time. Sometimes, things seem to get harder as the weeks and months pass, rather than easier, as we think they should. Life can be even more complicated when children are involved and we keep having to see our ex for practical reasons.....

12 Nov 2016

Brits crave all the likes – social media addiction

Dr Becky Spelman explains instant gratification needed by Brits in the form of social media likes, tweets and shares, with the average Brit spending over 2 hours a day across 3 social media accounts.....

10 Nov 2016

Zayn Malik and his Anxiety Disorder

The world got to know Zayn Malik as the cute young man who sang and danced in boyband One Direction, and millions of teenage girls were devastated when he left the band. With his brooding good looks and successful career, Zayn seemed to have it all before he had even left his early twenties.....

05 Nov 2016

Too Scared to Push? Fear of Childbirth/Afraid of Giving Birth?

While it’s perfectly normal for any woman to experience some nervousness or anxiety around childbirth, for some the fear of childbirth becomes so great that it can actually have a huge impact on their lives and the decisions they take. When fear of childbirth becomes so overwhelming, it is considered a phobia known as “tokophobia”. Tokophobia is a psychological disorder whereby the woman’s fear of giving birth involves a dramatic over-estimation of the actual dangers involved. While thin....

03 Nov 2016

Being a CBT therapist in London – Interview with Tara McCloskey

Tara McCloskey is a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist (CBT), working both in private practice for the Private Therapy Clinic and for the NHS. She provides therapy both in English and in Farsi and was born and lives in London. Today I interviewed Tara to find out more about her role as a CBT therapist, her lifestyle and what her job involves.....

27 Oct 2016

Theory of mind, schizotypy, and persecutory ideation in young adults

Previous studies of the relation between theory of mind (ToM) and schizotypy have suggested that ToM deficits may be associated with positive signs (e.g., hallucination- and delusion-like experiences). Good theoretical reasons exist to suggest that this relation may be largely due to ToMdeficits being predominantly associated with the occurrence of persecutory delusion-like beliefs. This study set out to test this hypothesis and address limitations of previous research.....

23 Oct 2016

October Newsletter

It's that time of year where Halloween costumes and decorations sits near the supermarket entrances and everybody has only now just got used to writing '2016' on documents.....

22 Sep 2016

Interview with 2FM on Lights Out

Dr Becky Spelman's chat with Eoghan McDermott on 2fm, talking fear, phobias and scary movies such as the movie Lights Out.....

02 Sep 2016

Mental Health Issues are More Common than You Think

Mental health issues are more common than you think. Our short video offers some interesting statistics. A video by The Private Therapy Clinic....

16 Feb 2015

Is nostalgia good for us?

We all fall prey to nostalgia from time to time. When we are middle-aged or elderly, we tend to remember an idealised version of the past, when we were young and gorgeous, and everything seemed to be so much simpler. Similarly, collectively we often yearn for times gone by. Looked at from the distance of today, it often seems that things were easier in the past. This seems to be a sort of nostalgia to which the British are particularly prone, as evidenced by the massive success of TV shows like ....

02 Sep 2016

Uncertainty & The Availability of Information

Uncertainty and fear can fundamentally create an atmosphere of anxiety and on a macro scale this can lead to cultural change that hardwires anxieties into the population. How many people would now pick up an unattended bag on the train to hand it in to lost property?....

18 Aug 2016

Psychologist OR Psychiatrist

It can be confusing to know whether you need a Psychologist or a Psychiatrist and many people don't know the different between the two. To receive clarification on which expert you should see follow this helpful infographic. Psychologist ofter talking therapy and are usually trained in a number of different therapeutic approaches. Psychiatrists are medical doctors and can prescribe medication. Psychiatrists can recommend the best type of talking therapy for you. Both Psychologists and Psychiatri....

17 Aug 2016

Which type of therapy approach would suit me best?

It can be confusing with so many different approaches out there, answer these questions to find out which of the main approaches would benefit you the most out of the following: CBT, Psychodynamic, EMDR or integrative therapy. ....

17 Aug 2016

When Good Sex Goes Bad – How To Avoid Making Bad Choices In Your Sex Life – Huffington Post

Sex sells the advertising industry says. Men think about sex every seven seconds, a famous but completely fabricated stat says, (it’s actually 19 times per day, on average, with women sex-sidetracked an average of ten times per day). If you believe the media then our whole lives revolve around sex, and whilst that isn’t true, it is fair to say that many people in the West live in a relatively enlightened sexual time, where sexual freedom is both relatively attainable and relatively socially ....

12 Feb 2007

Physical and psychological sequelae of critical illness.

A published research study by Dr Kannika Sukantarat. The objective of the study was to measure levels of anxiety, depression and post-traumatic stress among survivors of a critical illness and to relate these symptoms to general health parameters.....

12 Feb 2007

Psychological assessment of ICU survivors: a comparison between the Hospital Anxiety and Depression scale and the Depression, Anxiety and Stress scale.

Recovery from a critical illness can be delayed by persistent anxiety and depression. To identify such patients, a new self-report questionnaire (the Depression, Anxiety and Stress scale, DASS) was used alongside an established instrument (the Hospital Anxiety and Depression scale, HADS) in those who had spent a minimum of 3 days (median 9 days) in a general intensive care unit. DASS performs as consistently as HADS in screening for anxiety and depression, and its psychometric properties support....

01 Jul 2005

Prolonged cognitive dysfunction in survivors of critical illness

A prospective study using neuropsychological testing explored cognitive performance, and specifically executive function, in survivors of critical illness during the first year of recovery.....

01 Aug 2016

The Psychology Behind Premature Ejaculation – What’s Really Causing It – Huffington Post

As a practicing psychologist I see many people with sexual issues that impact heavily upon their lives. However, there’s one in particular that many men find particularly stressful, and that’s premature ejaculation. This is something that affects up to 4 in 10 men over the age of 18 at some point in their lives, and yet it’s become taboo to talk openly about something that happens to nearly half of British men.....

13 Jul 2016

What Is ‘Tapping’ and Can It Cure All Of Your Pain?

Dr Becky Spelman's Psychologist comments in Vice magazine about EFT. Click here to read the full article. Dr Becky Spelman, psychologist and CBT therapist at Private Therapy Clinic on Harley Street, is not in favour. "While energy meridians are an interesting concept, scientific investigation has thus far been unable to confirm their existence," she said. "Formal studies of the efficacy of EFT have, to date, indicated that any positive results probably have more to do with the placebo effect tha....

11 Jul 2016

Can I buy a Shared Ownership property with a friend?

Advice from the expert. Psychologist Rebecca Spelman gives tips and guidance on how to buy and live together without putting your friendship at risk.....

07 Jul 2016

Depression is Seriously Easy to Treat – Advice from our Psychiatrist

By Consultant Psychiatrist Dr Sameer Sarkar If you are reading this, you are likely to be experiencing some symptoms commonly associated with depression, or know someone who is. You could be the parent of a teenager, a young adult, spouse, employer, colleague or just a friend. You have concerns about some of the behavior someone is exhibiting. Or you could be worried about how you are feeling lately and the impact it is having on you and those around you. You think something is not right, ye....

01 Jul 2016

How to break the vicious cycle of social anxiety

How to break the vicious cycle of social anxiety - unhelpful thoughts, physical symptoms & behaviours. In this video we discuss what keep social anxiety going and how to practicing a technique which helps break the cycle and counter the effects of social anxiety....

29 Jun 2016

Approaching ADHD with Psychiatry

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is an often misunderstood condition not least because its prevalence in society is a relatively new field of study. Much like other areas of mental health, the collective symptoms of ADHD have until the last few decades been unacknowledged as a condition.....

25 Jun 2016

How to stop feeling self conscious in social situations – Focus of attention and social anxiety

A Cognitive Behavioural Self help video on how to stop feeling self conscious in social situations. When we feel anxious in social situations we tend to focus on what is happening internally for us which lead us to notice our negative thoughts and sensations more. ....

24 Jun 2016

Psychodynamic Psychotherapy for Low Self-Esteem

From a psychodynamic perspective, the genesis of a person’s self-esteem is usually rooted in childhood experience. Several factors may contribute, from obvious criticisms or abuse from parents and bullying at school, to more subtle factors such as missing out on experiences that would build a sense of confidence in a growing child or inconsistent or no positive reinforcement for his accomplishments.....

23 Jun 2016

What causes and maintains social anxiety

What triggers and maintains social anxiety. In this video one of Private Therapy Clinic's consultants explains why typically happens when someone experiences social anxiety. When someone understands their own cycle it can help break the cycle by considering what areas need to be worked on.....

21 Jun 2016

Dr Francesca Ducci – Consultant Psychiatrist at Private Therapy Clinic

Dr. Francesca Ducci, MD, PhD, is a general adult psychiatrist working at Private Therapy Clinic in London. Over the years she has developed a broad range of clinical and research expertise working in Italy, UK and US. Dr. Ducci completed her medical postgraduate qualification in General Adult Psychiatry in London.....

14 Jun 2016

The ubiquity of fear – Should we avoid reading and watching the news?

Very few people would genuinely wish to roll back the Internet. The online world has given us a huge amount in terms of the availability to knowledge, the ability to communicate with friends and family all over the world, and a lot more. It’s also given us the ability to be on top of what’s happening everywhere, all the time – and that’s something of a mixed blessing!....

07 Apr 2016

Sex, Gore and Playtime: What Does Watching Extreme Videos As a Kid Do to You? Comments by Dr Lindsay Ip

Dr Lindsay Ip's Child Psychologist comments in Vice magazine about the effect on children of watching extreme content online (pornography, violence etc) and what effect, if any, it has long-term on the child's mental well being.....

04 Apr 2016

Children being driven to despair as primary pupils under the age of 5 now self-harming

Child psychologist Lindsay Ip, who practises at London’s Private Therapy Clinic, said that self-harm among children under five was tragically no longer rare, adding that modern technology was partly to blame. She said: “Children today are more used to immediate gratification from technology and digital games than active, creative play in the outdoors and connection to humans and nature. “This means they have less time to process and integrate experiences, which limits their capacity ....

03 Apr 2016

Life Flat-sharing at 40: ‘The thought of owning property again is daunting’

The psychology of sharing a living space later in life is the subject of research by Dr Becky Spelman at the Private Therapy Clinic, alongside her peers in London and New York. She says, ‘This kind of living style has an initial impact on self-esteem for many. We have preconceptions that society will judge us negatively for not owning our home past the age of 40.’....

25 Nov 2015

The allure of the nanny: What makes these child-carers so irresistible?

Appalling, exploitative behaviour, for sure – but it may be partly down to genes, says Dr Becky Spelman of the Private Therapy Clinic ‘There is a theory with nannies in particular that is linked to evolutionary drives,’ she says. Man shuts down cheating ex in the most passive-aggressive way ‘Men are biologically programmed to look for maternal instincts and, if they see a young, potentially fertile woman surrounded by babies, this perception of them as potential partners increases.�....

07 Oct 2015

Cheeks in, lips parted! As the ‘fish gape’ takes over the red carpet, FEMAIL offers a masterclass in how YOU can perfect the photo-friendly look

FEMAIL spoke to Harley Street psychologist Dr Becky Spelman about the ever-changing vortex of photo faces. 'Because of the way today’s spotlight shines on celebrities, the red carpet is a daunting place for even the most confident and experienced individual,' she said.....

06 Oct 2015

Is your bad temper KILLING you? Angry men are more likely to die before the age of 70, study claims

Harley Street-based psychologist Dr Becky Spelman said there are many practical things that we can each do to manage our anger levels. ‘Take the time to consider the things in your life that you can be appreciative of – write them down and picture each clearly in your mind, ideally when you first wake up,’ she said. ‘Visualise what you really want from your life. Hold on to this vision tightly and whenever you feel frustrated come back to the visualisation and do not let go of this. �....

07 Jun 2016

Paul Christopher Mollitt Therapist Intro Video

He has substantial experience working in the NHS, higher education and privately. Paul has worked with adults and couples in both primary (IAPT) and secondary care (CMHT) mental health services within the NHS across several London boroughs. He also has experience working with students at several universities including UCL as well as maintaining a private practice for several years.....

03 Jun 2016

Stimulate the Brain: Not Just Stimulants – Non-pharmacological Treatment of Attentional Disorders in Adults

Non-pharmacological Treatment of Attentional Disorders (ADD/ADHD) in Adults by Consultant Psychiatrist Dr Sameer Sarkar The National Institute of Clinical Excellence regularly publishes technology evaluations and ‘guidance’ (NICE Guidelines). Although they are ‘guidelines’ only and not gospel, many consider them to be so, perhaps because no other guidelines exist to clinicians which they can rely on as ‘benchmark’. The NICE guidelines on ADHD conceptualizes the disorder to be a....

06 Jun 2016

Our Thoughts: Raheem Sterling “Reveals” He is Seeing a Psychiatrist

So Raheem Sterling (England, Manchester City) has admitted to seeing a psychiatrist. This is news because? After I read the piece, I was in two minds about which bit of this ‘news’ is newsworthy. That he has been seeing a ‘psychiatrist’, or that he was bold enough to admit it? Kudos to Sterling, for owning up to seeking help from outside the usual suspects - his coach, physio, agent and whatever entourage a modern day footballer with wages of £200,000 per week has. But why not?....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Spiders – Dr Becky Spelman

Spider phobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is ha....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Birds – Dr Becky Spelman

A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. ....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Dogs – Dr Becky Spelman

Dog phobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is hand ....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Water – Dr Becky Spelman

Water phobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is han....

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Heights – Dr Becky Spelman

07 Jun 2016

Extreme Phobias Extreme Cures – Confined Spaces – Dr Becky Spelman

Claustraphobia episode from the Extreme Phobias, Extreme Cures series. A series which sees people with the same crippling fear or phobia join forces to overcome their problem once and for all – from spiders, dogs and birds to heights, confined spaces and water. Each week ten fellow sufferers will take part in an extreme form of exposure therapy that will involve them helping each other through their worst nightmare scenarios as they tackle their fear head on. Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman is h....

04 Apr 2016

4 Reasons Why The Relationship with Your Therapist is Important

It’s not uncommon to see therapists talking about how it is important that you, as a client, are comfortable with the therapist you have chosen or have been recommended. It does make a lot of sense, who wants to disclose their deepest thoughts with somebody that just isn’t a good fit for them? ....

08 Mar 2016

Dr Lindsay Ip, Psychologist, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Couples and Family Therapist

Psychologist Dr Lindsay Ip discusses her clinical work, the types of clients she sees and what types of issues she can help people with. She understands that it can be an anxiety provoking experience when a client first comes to see her and therefore she has made this video to help clients know what to expect. In this video Lindsay discusses the type of approaches she uses and how she works collaboratively with her clients. ....

08 Mar 2016

Not to Hot: How to Reconnect Your Relationship’s Sexual Energy – Huffington Post

It is not easy to maintain a good romantic relationship between two people in this d....

01 Mar 2016

How His Relationship With His Mum Could Spell The End Of Yours – Huffington Post

This week I have been asked by three different friends about their boyfriends' relationship with their respective mothers. What was interesting was that each had a different issue about it, with each providing a different impact upon their relationships. ....

28 Feb 2016

February Newsletter

There goes the first two warm-up months of a brand new year, now it's time to actually start enforcing those resolutions on yourself! Careful though, Easter is just around the corner, and often means a few naughty chocolate treats.....

26 Feb 2016

The Duchess of Cambridge Is Right – Young Minds Really Do Matter – Huffington Post

There are some moments in our society that we look back on and realize the world really did change a bit that day. When Kate Middleton, The Duchess of Cambridge took on the Editorship of the Huffington Post last week, that's what happened for our society's collective understanding of mental health issues, particularly in children.....

15 Feb 2016

Can a mobile app replace your therapist?

From ordering takeaway food and monitoring your blood pressure through to maintaining global friendships and finding love, the concept of the 'app' is nothing short of revolutionary. The agility of the app insofar that it can accomplish virtually any required task is summed up gracefully by the well-known and much parodied 2009 Apple trademark quote "there's an app for that".....

15 Feb 2016

How to Spot Signs Your Partner May Be a Cheater – The Huffington Post

Around Valentine's Day, no-one wants to think their partner may be thinking of someone else. However, research suggests that modern monogamous relationships have never been more likely to see one or both partners stray from home, with some statistics showing over 50% of people are likely to commit at least one act of infidelity in their lifetime. ....

12 Feb 2016

4 Things to Celebrate and Enjoy On Your Commute

It’s quite natural to think about the commute into work as a banal, routine and unenviable part of the day in which you have the privilege of occupying the same space as hundreds of other people who feel exactly the same way you do.....

02 Feb 2016

Understanding Sexual Fetishes – The Huffington Post

Thanks to the 50 Shades of Grey phenomena, last year saw the fetish scene sail as close to the mainstream as it has ever done, with the series' first movie the eleventh most popular global film, and EL James's re-telling of her first novel.......

26 Jan 2016

January Newsletter

The start of a new year is a great time to make a fresh start on almost anything. From relationships to your health or even your career, 2016 has the potential to be a great year for all of us.....

22 Jan 2016

Online Daters Be Wary – Dating Sites Attract Psychopaths and Love Addicts – The Huffington Post

According to recent stats there will be nine million Brits online dating as you read this, with nearly half of adults in the UK having tried finding love through the internet. ....

20 Jan 2016

How to get that job: Dr Becky Spelman’s interview in The Independent

Dr Becky Spelman dreamed of working in a field where she could help individuals find a higher degree of happiness in their lives.....

12 Jan 2016

2015 Was the Year of Casual Sex – But Is It Dangerous for Your Psychological Health?

In 2015 the frequency and depth of sex in my patients' lives appeared to increase in its importance, seemingly due to the ever increasingly sexualised and consumerist society we live in.....

20 Dec 2015

December Newsletter

As we get closer to the end of another year, it's once again time to reflect on what's been happening at the clinic, and then swiftly turn our heads towards the Christmas break. We wish everybody a wonderful Christmas holiday and a happy new year. And don't forget those resolutions! It's been a busy month for Dr Becky Spelman with a number of media appearances and the publication of a brand new help video.....

04 Dec 2015

Life Post The Paris Terror Attacks – The Saturday Show – Channel 5 – Dr Becky Spelman

Dr Becky Spelman speaks on Channel 5's The Saturday show about how to deal with anxiety after the Paris attacks. Dr Becky Spelman, a cognitive behavioural Psychologist joins the show to take a look at the varying responses and why we react the way we do.....

28 Nov 2015

November Newsletter

As we get into the winter months, it’s a great time of year to take stock of where we are at with our emotional and psychological health, and recalibrate.....

26 Nov 2015

How to identify and overcome OCD intrusive thoughts

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Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman talks about how to identify OCD thoughts and how exposure therapy for intrusive thoughts can help.....

25 Nov 2015

Dr Becky Spelman on The Gadget Show

Dr Becky Spelman helps presenter Ortis overcome his fear on The Gadget Show on Channel 5 using exposure therapy along with gadgets. ....

05 Nov 2015

Beating The Winter Blues

Seasonal Affected Disorder (or SAD as it is more commonly known) is the mood related condition which sees sufferers adversely affected by changes in the seasons. For most people this means they feel worse and exhibit symptoms of depression during winter months, but some can suffer in other seasons, also. Like depression, symptoms can be very unique to each individual, but often we see signs of apathy, disinterest, lowered sex drive, and sluggish performance with work. - See more at: https://thep....

29 Oct 2015

Psychologist Dr Becky Spelman on London Live

Psychologist Dr Becky talks on London Live about the research study commissioned by Beko which investigates the way in which socialising has changed, why staying in is the new going out and kitchen envy and the pressure to keep up with all the latest appliances, gadgets and technology. ....

20 Aug 2015

The Psychology of Possessions and Owning more Experiences than Items

Modern society is wonderful in many ways, and the upsides of increases in technological and scientific advances has enabled us to live longer, and in more comfort, than at any other time in human history. However, the consumerism that drives our society comes with the veneration of consumer goods, or ‘stuff’, and it is this drive for consumable abundance that directly impacts our happiness.....

19 Aug 2015

4 Signs that Your Job Could be Negatively Affecting Your Mental Health

Even if you wouldn’t consider your work demanding but still feel intense pressure, displeasure or stress, we all need to be looking out for these red flags.....

10 Jul 2015

How can persuasion be successful? by Vasiliki Gkofa, Psychology Writer

There is no doubt that people want their opinions to be heard and valued. Consequently they may undergo many tactics in order to persuade others of their views. Persuasion techniques may be implemented on purpose but sometimes they may appear without our intention. It is known that politicians are the first ones to apply persuasion techniques to influence public opinion and achieve their goals.....

09 Jul 2015

Sport and Our Vital Essence

Everybody is aware of the relationship between physical activity and health, scientific evidence has showed how much physical activity can help us lead healthier lives. From a neurological point of view international research has showed how sports produce positive effects not only on our general wellbeing, but also on our neurological system.....

04 Jun 2015

Why do eating disorders and borderline personality disorder go together? By Dr Becky Spelman

Eating disorders occur in people who have difficulty managing their emotions and sitting with difficult emotions, both highly painful emotions and the most subtle of negative emotions.....

01 Jun 2015

How to survive the ‘ideal’ body image battle by Jemma Joel

Summer can be a tough time for those who are body conscious, as hot weather equals less clothing. To some, this can be their least favourite time of the year and in turn, can lead to lower self-esteem and more negativity about themselves.....

26 May 2015

Can you learn to be happy?

Being dissatisfied with your work can motivate you to try harder in order to succeed. Therefore what can be said with certainty is that we should find the joy and happiness in whatever we do. - See more at: https://theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk/can-you-learn-to-be-happy/#sthash.3301Qq0i.dpuf....

25 May 2015

Bringing Harley Street Therapy to Chelsea

The Private Therapy Clinic, led by Psychologist Dr. Becky Spelman has recently opened a new treatment location in Chelsea. The services provided at the successful Harley St clinic are now available to those who live and work in the Chelsea and Kensington area. - See more at: https://theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk/bringing-harley-street-therapy-to-chelsea/#sthash.6G76IrRV.dpuf....

20 May 2015

4 Reasons Why All Company Owners Should Consider Therapy

‘Therapy’ is a word often reserved for when talking about those suffering a range of mental illnesses but this doesn’t reflect reality. In actual fact, therapy can be an excellent way to keep stress at bay.....

12 May 2015

Psychologist Anna Sagredou Introduction Video

Psychologist Anna Sagredou discusses how she works with clients and the techniques which she uses to help clients achieve change. Anna is trained in a variety of techniques such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Psychodynamic approaches and Mindfulness. She works with both individuals and couples. Anna has worked in both private settings, the NHS and has worked in the UK as well as other countries. She has experience as a Psychologist, a lecturer and providers other Psychologists with teaching, ....

11 Mar 2015

What are the different types of anxiety by Cognitive Behavioural Therapist Maya Cooray

Psychological Therapist Maya Cooray discusses the various different types of anxiety disorders such as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Health Anxiety, Social Anxiety, Phobias, Panic Disorder and Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD). ....

25 Feb 2015

Overcoming Panic Attacks by Dr Becky Spelman

Dr Becky Spelman provides a 30 minutes step by step Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Treatment guide on how to overcome panic attacks based on David Clark's research proven treatment. Follow these steps to overcome your panic attacks once and for all. ....

20 Feb 2015

How to have a healthy relationship with your partner

In order to have a healthy relationship, both partners must be committed - not only to each other but committed to making the relationship successful. Every relationship has its highs and lows, but the key point is to keep communication at a level that produces honesty, trust and happiness. As relationships progress, you learn new things about each other - things that may irritate or even upset you - which is all part of turning your relationship into something that will become long-term.....

09 Feb 2015

Fifty Shades of Harm – Why Fifty Shares of Grey is so harmful.

What’s the harm in a little fun? Millions of women, and some men, have enjoyed reading Fifty Shades of Grey, and now they can enjoy seeing the lurid erotic novel played out on the big screen too. Everyone has sexual fantasies, which are a normal, healthy part of our psychological make-up. There’s nothing wrong with letting our mind run riot, and imagining ourselves in all sorts of steamy situations. But the normalising of S&M behaviours, which are increasingly presented in the media as so....

01 Feb 2015

Spider Phobia (Arachnophobia) Treatment – How to overcome Spider Phobia in a few hours

Dr. Becky Spelman helps a lady overcome her spider phobia in just a few hours. In the end she's fine to hold a Tarantula and even have a Tarantula sit on her head. ....

30 Jan 2015

Why do we dream?

Nobody knows for sure why we developed the ability to dream, or what the evolutionary advantage is, but there are lots of interesting theories out there. Whatever the origins of dreaming (something that we share with at least some other mammals), it can play an important role in our psychological health. Again, the mechanism by which this takes place is not always a completely straightforward one.....

29 Jan 2015

What is Perfectionism by Maya Cooray | Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist (CBT)

Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist Maya Cooray speaks about perfectionism. Any introduction to the topic of perfectionism, an issue that many people experience in one of many areas of their life. ....

27 Jan 2015

Can Reality TV Harm the Participants?

In a word, yes – although it doesn’t have to, and sometimes the outcome can even be good! Everyone is different, and while participating in a reality show can be a huge challenge for some people, others may thrive.....

23 Jan 2015

Anxiety – it CAN go away.

If you suffer from anxiety, then you know what a horrible experience it is. The sweating palms, the shaking; even thoughts that you may die. But to all of you out there who suffer with this disorder - it is treatable and it will go away. It's one of the most easily treated disorders out there, but most are too worried to take the first step and ask for help.....

20 Jan 2015

Therapist introduction video from Tara McCloskey Occupational Psychologist and Cognitive Behavioural Therapist

Tara is a Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist who has been accredited by the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP). She mostly uses Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) but she also uses other approaches such as Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) and Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT). Watch her introduction video.....

20 Jan 2015

Hate mornings? You could have undiagnosed Adult ADHD (ADD)

Many people have trouble waking up in the morning. But if you have consistent difficulties sleeping, you could have attention deficit disorder (ADD) or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). New research has revealed a correlation between the circadian rhythm, the bodies sleep regulation mechanism, and ADHD/ADD. Studies show that trouble falling asleep, poor REM sleep and feeling sluggish in the morning could be a symptom of these disorders.....

06 Jan 2015

Shiloh Jolie-Pitt wants to be called John: When is a child old enough to make a decision about gender identity?

Celebrity couple Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt raised eyebrows recently when they announced that their daughter, Shiloh Jolie Pitt, preferred to dress and behave “like a boy” – and that they are totally fine with that. Apparently little Shiloh – who is lucky enough to have inherited stunning good looks from both sides of her family – is now happier dressing as a boy, and playing with “boys’ toys”, and has asked her family to call her “John.”....

25 Dec 2014

Dealing with Depression during the Holidays

By Private Therapy Clinic - Dr. Becky Spelman

Living with depression can be a challenge at the best of times. During the holidays, when we are all “supposed” to be happy all the time, it can be doubly difficult. Friends and relatives can become impatient and resentful if your depressed mood puts a downer on a party, and family tensions can be hard for everyone.....

12 Nov 2014

Private Therapy Clinic Client Testimonial

Social anxiety client speaks about her Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Treatment with Dr Becky Spelman. The treatment involved manage exposure exercises over a 6 hour period along through and belief challenging tools.....

01 Nov 2014

Therapist introduction video from Herjoyt Ubhi accredited Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist (CBT)

Herjoyt Ubhi is a BABCP accredited Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist (CBT) experienced in working with moderate to severe or complex depression, anxiety, addictions and personality disorders in NHS and here at Private Therapy Clinic. She is skills in a range of approches such as CBT, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing (EMDR).....

17 Oct 2014

Could you be suffering from Generalised Anxiety Disorder?

It’s perfectly normal to feel anxious from time to time. Most of us experience anxiety around important events, such as a job interview. So long as we only experience anxiety when we “should” it’s just one of those things we have to deal with.....

12 Sep 2014

The Psychology of Travel – Is there Psychological Benefits of seeing the World?

To say that travel broadens the mind is something of a truism, but is there anything in the old adage? As I’m about to leave on a month long trip to Asia, I thought I would look into the matter and report my findings back to you! And I’ve learned that, in fact, there’s a lot of evidence to suggest that sometimes a spot of travel can be just what we need.....

09 Sep 2014

Another Way to Learn?

The arrival of autumn also means the start of a new school year; a time that can bring both excitement and anxiety to parents and children alike.....

08 Sep 2014

The Brangelina Effect and The Psychology of Marriage

By Private Therapy Clinic - Do we Need to be Married to Have a Family with Someone we Love?

As anyone who reads the gossip column knows, actors Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie recently got married, despite having been a couple for years, and having a family of six children.....

07 Sep 2014

Stress and Mindfulness (part 2)

Mindfulness coach David Robinson teaches a Mindfulness mediation for stress reduction.....

07 Sep 2014

Stress and Mindfulness (part 1)

Mindfulness coach David Robinson answers a questions about how Mindfulness can be used to reduce stress.....

30 Aug 2014

Embarrassing Bodies on Channel 4

Dr Becky Spelman discusses Sleep-related Rhythmic Movement Disorder with a young lady and provides her with tips on how to manage the stress which triggers the disorder.....

30 Aug 2014

Airbrushed pictures should be clearly labelled

Dr Becky talks about the effects airbrushed pictures of models in the media can have on young people.....

30 Aug 2014

Testimonials from Dr Becky’s client

By Private Therapy Clinic - Testimonial post from Depression client – Stephen

Depression client who had Cognitive Behavioural Treatment with Dr Becky Spelman speaks about his experience of therapy at Private Therapy Clinic.....

29 Aug 2014

Maya Cooray

By Private Therapy Clinic - Maya CoorayCognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist

Maya Cooray - Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist....

29 Aug 2014

Ice Bucket Challenge

By Private Therapy Clinic - Dr. Becky Spelman’s Ice Bucket Challenge on Harley St

Private Therapy Clinics Clinical Director participates in the Ice Bucket Challenge and donates free blocks of therapy to five people affected by ASL or their families.....

21 Aug 2014

Something missing – Growing up with an emotionally unavailable Mother

By Dr. Becky Spelman - Registered Psychologist

Growing up with a mother who is a quiet Borderline (Borderline Waif’s) mother or mother who is has Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) can be incredibly difficult for a child as your mum will be emotionally underdeveloped. - See more at: https://theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk/growing-up-with-an-emotionally-unavailable-mother/#sthash.WvaeJZrC.dpuf....

06 Aug 2014

Depression and Mental Health in Men

By Private Therapy Clinic - Depression and Mental Health in Men

Dr. Becky Spelman speaks on BBC 5live’s Men’s Hour (podcast) about “Depression and Mental Health in Men.” Also speaking about their experiences of depression is former Torquay United Manager Martin Ling and Poet and Stand up Comedian Jack Rourke.....

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