Monday, 18 Dec 2017
Is it bad if you desire fame?
By Dr Becky Spelman
In today’s society, it’s hard to deny the fact that most, if not all people, are in some way interested in the lives of the rich and famous. Whether it be following the Instagram account of your favorite celebrity or finding out the latest news in glossy magazines, we all keep up to date with what is going on in celebrity’s lives in one way or another.
Because famous people often have a lot of money, live in nice houses and drive fancy cars, it’s easy for others to draw a link between being famous and being successful and happy, but is it bad if you desire fame and the lifestyle that goes along with it?
Fame as an ego boost
For many people, the desire to seek out fame comes from an underlying need to be accepted and acknowledged by those around us. Some people may have had turbulent relationships with their parents or siblings and might not have found it easy to develop bonds with peers during their time at school. All of these things may lead to a person seeking out acceptance from others in the form of fame. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, provided that this is just one part of a person’s life. Getting too wrapped up in fame and using it solely as a way to boost your ego is likely to leave you feeling unfulfilled.
It’s also worth recognising the fact that famous people are often subjected to a lot of scrutiny. Whether it be about what they are wearing or who they are dating, the press and the public tend to have a free pass when it comes to picking apart their lives and drawing attention to their flaws. For a thick-skinned individual this isn’t going to matter much, but for someone seeking out recognition from others, hearing insults on such a large scale is likely to have a negative impact on their confidence and self-image.
Not all it’s cracked up to be
Fame can bring with it many luxuries including money and a lavish lifestyle, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that it will make you happy. Fame is a novelty that will often wear off after a while and it can also come with a number of complications that can make it difficult to deal with. The pressure to always look and act a certain way due to fear of judgement can lead to some people cracking under pressure.
Finding acceptance without fame
If it’s acceptance that you are looking for, often this can be found without fame, but it will require some work on your part. It sounds cliche, but one of the most important things is being able to love yourself without caring what others think about you. An easy way to go about doing this is by thinking about all of your good traits and all of the positive things that you do in your life. Make a list of these things and it will help you to remember everything that you have to offer.
Who can I speak to about fame related insecurities?
If you are feeling insecure about yourself and think you may need help to recognise your worth arrange a meeting at the Private Therapy Clinic by booking online.