Every parent wants their child to grow up happy and healthy, and a lot of this comes from the way a child is parented from the very beginning. A relationship with a parent is one of the most important a child will have in their lifetime, and it’s the one that shapes them the most as they grow. Confidently saying you have a healthy relationship with your child can be difficult – especially as most of us feel as though we could be doing better – but asking yourself these questions can be a good indication.
Are You Present and Aware?
Though your child may not thank you for attending every football game or dance recital, they are sure to notice when you don’t show up. Simply being present and aware of a child’s interests and extracurricular activities can go a long way to showing them how important they are. Many children are too young to understand the difference emotional support and having someone physically present can make, but it will help them to feel a sense of support and security nonetheless.
Do You Engage and Interact?
Sure, spending time finding out what a five year old did at school all day and hearing the ins and outs of their recent playground drama may not be the first thing you want to do after a hard day at work. But, this can make a huge difference to a parent child relationship. Engaging and interacting with your child on their level shows that you are interested, you appreciate their opinions and they are a priority. This is one of the best ways to form a strong bond.
Can They Trust You?
There will come a time when your child confides in you and asks you not to tell, or you promise them you’ll do something specific; it is so important to stick to the promises you make. Having your child know they can rely you provides them with a strong sense of trust and its importance.
Is Love The Strongest Emotion?
I’m sure we can all remember a time when our parents shouted at us when we messed up. This is just a part of parenting and raising a child does come with its fair share of disagreements and stress, which is to be expected. However, a parent child relationship that is primarily shouting and arguing is not a healthy one. It’s important for a child to know that love will always be the strongest emotion in the relationship, regardless of whether they are in trouble.
Who can I speak to further about the issues in this article?
For help with the issues discussed in this article speak to one of our therapists here at Private Therapy Clinic.