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Sunday, 20 Oct 2019

How I Learnt to Cope With Grief Through Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

By Private Therapy Clinic

Here is Nicole describing how CBT or Cognitive Behavioural Therapy helped her to cope with grief and overcome feelings of anxiety and depression.

Video Transcript

Nicole: Hi, guys, my name is Nicole. And today I’m going to be speaking about suffering with anxiety and depression. And I just wanted to explain a little bit about how these conditions affect my day to day life and how I have learned to cope with these conditions by going to see a therapist.

So in 2016, I lost somebody very close to me. And I actually really, really struggled with the grieving process because I didn’t know how to continue with day to day life and also heal from a very traumatic life event. So I became very, very anxious with going outside or going into public in my local neighborhood because I grew concerns that people would ask questions and that people would ask if I’m okay, and I wasn’t really willing or open to speaking about how I was feeling at the time. So I ended up not really leaving my home. And unfortunately, it meant that I had to drop out of education and I had to drop out of my employment at the time, which was something that up until this moment, I was really enjoying. I ended up staying indoors all the time, I stopped really taking care of myself. I didn’t really communicate with any of my friends or my family. And while I knew people were concerned about me, I had this huge problem with opening up to close ones because I feared that I would be burden in them with my problems.

I had to go and see my GP because of health matter, and my GP actually noticed that I was in a very down mood. And he basically said, “You know, I think you should go into your therapist”. And it took a lot of convincing because I think that I had built up this idea that perhaps a therapist would be very clinical and hard to talk to. And I felt that it was a huge commitment, going to speak to somebody about my problems that I didn’t know. But luckily, I actually met somebody amazing, that specialized in CBT therapy. And we basically just worked on just taking baby steps one at a time, because I put so, so much pressure on myself to overcome huge hurdles, and they just weren’t achievable short term and I would then become very depressed because I was setting my goals way too high. And I was putting an enormous amount of pressure on myself.

So, going to therapy has actually given me a lot more of a realistic look into my life and how I’m going to cope with these kinds of symptoms. When I go into the public, I feel very, very self-conscious. I feel as though people are perhaps judging me. And I often come to conclusions before I know the answers to what people might actually be thinking. And the same sort of applies with my depression. I often imagine a scenario going badly before I even enter it. And my therapist actually really helped me to address that and to look at opportunities openly and with a clear mind. And I think that it’s just had such a huge boost to me as a person. I went back to my education, I went back to work, I finished my training and now I am doing my dream career that I always dreamed of. And I still really do suffer day to day from the symptoms. I do have days where I lack motivation. And I don’t really want to communicate with people and I really do sometimes struggle to just get throughout the day because the symptoms can make me feel really lethargic and tired.

But I think that by going to see a CBT therapist, I now have tools in place for what I feel like this so that I know, okay, these are the symptoms I might feel but these are also the coping factors that I now know go with them. And go to therapy, it’s just been an invaluable experience and I couldn’t recommend it enough. I know that it can be a really, really hard step to take initially but I just think that by going to see a therapist, you might be surprised at how you look at things differently. So I would say that my biggest recommendation is to go and speak to somebody. Thank you very much.

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