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Sunday, 24 May 2020

5 Behaviours That are Feeding Your Anxiety

By Dr Becky Spelman
5 Behaviours That are Feeding Your Anxiety | Private Therapy Clinic

Your anxiety isn’t just the result of a single factor, but is the combination of multiple different thought-processes, behaviours and circumstances that feed into the ongoing feeling dread. Although psychotherapies such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and in some cases even medication may be required to get you to a place of full recovery, it pays to be aware of exactly what the moving components of your condition are and how they’re affecting you. The better you can pinpoint these behaviours as they’re happening, the more chance you have of bringing making active choices to help you move away from them. 

  1. Negative Self Talk

One of the core facets of anxiety is the tendency to come down on yourself for even the smallest of infractions. Over time, this can negatively affect your self-esteem, which can add fuel to the fire of your already existing anxiety or even serve as the starting point of your condition. If you’re constantly using self-limiting language, this will ultimately have an effect on how you imagine other’s view you, as well. It starts and ends with you. 

  1. Reliving the Past

As hard as it is to accept sometimes, you cannot alter the past. It has been and gone, and no amount of worrying that you can offer will change those events. Although anxiety is generally focused on what may happen in the future, it can just as easily see you concerned with how you were perceived at work, a social event, with family. It’s these thoughts that often feed into how you imagine the future will also unfold. 

  1. “Predicting” the Future

Anxiety is largely centred around events and activities that you’ll have to engage with in the near future that causes you to imagine scenarios in which the worst possible outcomes take place. It’s the hallmark of all anxiety disorders. But how often do these predictions come true? Very rarely do you find yourself experiencing the exact set of circumstances that you thought would come to pass. It’s simply your anxiety running away with itself. 

  1. Isolating and Avoiding Social Situations

An unavoidable necessity, if you’re suffering from anxiety, is taking time to be alone with yourself. There’s no harm in wanting and needing to detach from company so you can realign with your baseline emotional state. However, it can become a problem when this coping strategy becomes a lifestyle decision. If you continue to self-isolate, it reduces your quality of life and can often lead to the imagining of more scenarios that prevent you from wanting to make social contact. 

  1. Refusing Help and Not Having a Proper Support Network

It can be hard to overcome even mild cases of anxiety by yourself sometimes. There often comes a point with all mental health challenges that you need to ask for help. In the case of anxiety, it can be especially hard due to the nature of the condition. There is often a deep-seated distrust that sees you unable to make those initial steps towards recovery. But the more you push that support away, the greater you feeling of unworthiness will become along with your anxiety. You have to break the barrier of believing you can get better and that you are worth it. 

About the author:

Dr Becky Spelman is a leading UK Psychologist who’s had great success helping her clients manage and overcome a multitude of mental illnesses.

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