by Dr. Becky Spelman on 11/08/2018
“Anger doesn’t just come out of the blue, it’s a result of someone bottling up their frustrations and not asserting them self in time” – Dr Becky Spelman
About Anger Management Counselling and Treatment
To address anger related difficulties we teach you how to assert yourself in a calm, clear way at the earliest opportunity and show you how to release your anger and frustration regularly so that your outbursts of anger stop occurring in a way that you feel you can not control or in ways that leads to negative consequence. We will help you improve your assertiveness and communicate skills, help you work on interpersonal relationships and help you get to a place where you nip your anger in the bud right away before it gets out of control.
It’s actually ok to feel anger, it’s a perfectly normal human emotion and even helps guide us in certain situations, therefore it’s beneficial for us to have the ability to be able to feel anger. It’s actually when people try to suppress their anger that it does the most harm. Therefore we are not trying to make your ability to feel anger go away we are just helping you learn how to deal with this emotion in a way that leaves you feeling in control rather than your anger controlling you. Remember anger never killed anyone, it’s what people do with their anger that does the damage. We can certainly teach you strategies that will really help.
Treatment will draw on the latest research that has been proven to be effective for treating difficulties with anger but also the treatment will be shaped around you as an individual. The first session will involve the therapist getting to know you and your difficulties and goals and the therapist will give you more information about what the treatment will involve.
We would be happy to provide you with further about treatment for Anger Management and recommend the right practitioner for you. Alternatively if you feel ready to book in and would like to know availability for an initial appointment at this point I can send you over some appointment slots. Let me know which you would prefer.
Further information about anger
Anger is seen as a natural response to a situation or event that is particularly threatening, and creates the feeling of being attacked, injured or violated. Known as the “fight or flight” response, anger can ensure our survival by giving us the strength to either stand up for ourselves, “fight” or run away for our lives, “flight”. In this way, anger is neither good nor bad. However, anger can cause destructive behaviour and we generally tend to be frightened of it.
In a situation where you might feel angry, the fight or flight response kicks in, increasing the adrenaline in your blood. This gives you energy, making you alert, and ready for action. The tension that is built up is released if the anger is expressed. Expression of anger is good as it keeps the body and mind in balance. If tension is released in action or words, you would usually be able to carry on with life’s activities and cope with the anger. However, if the anger is inhibited, it turns inwards causing more serious problems. The extra energy given by the “fight or flight” response needs to be used up somehow, and if there is no tension release occurs, physical and mental problems can develop.
The effects anger can have on you include:
- Digestive problems that can lead to heartburn, ulcers, colitis, gastritis and irritable bowel syndrome;
- heart and circulatory problems including blocked arteries;
- increased blood pressure;
- inflammations of joints and muscles ;
- a weakened immune system;
- lowered pain threshold ;
- Depressive symptoms if anger turned inwards
- Addiction to alcohol, tobacco or other drugs;
- compulsive behaviour such as excessive eating, overworking, meticulous cleaning and even out of control sexual activities;
- bullying other people to make yourself feel better;
- ill-planned political activity such as terrorism or going on strike;
The way we have been raised and our cultural background directly affects our views on the expression of anger. Suppression of anger can result from being explicitly taught not to be angry, witnessing others’ anger get out of control and even from being frightened by own short temper.
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) can help change the negative thoughts surrounding anger issues and create tailored goals for dealing with situations that could cause anger. Psychodynamic therapy can help you understand where your anger has come from in the first place and how to manage it better.
How Can I Get Anger Management Counselling in London?
If you would like to talk to someone about anger management counselling and therapy in London, please get in touch with us at the Private Therapy Clinic by telephone at 020 38871738 or book online.